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Eek start my adoption wednesday(7 Posts)
Eek got my first meeting with adoption agency Wednesday feeling rather nervous about it it's only to gather info and then we have to choose which agency to go with if there is anyone else out there going through the same as me i would love to hear from you xx
Hey there! Greetings from another newbie! So me and my partner went through some.preliminary pre stage 1 stuff in October where we spoke to some agencies and went to an info eve. Were currently having a short break before making formal stage 1 app in June as he had to evidence giving up smoking and we also thought it'd be a good idea to try to get some more varied childcare experience. It's been great learning from more experienced adopters oh mumsnet but it's also a great relief to find there are ppl such as you who are new to the game too! Sounds like you may be able to help me out with tips by time am putting in a formal app but for meantime I can say all the initial assessments at stage you're at were fine not much more than a chat really. They'll want to know basic things like your relationship living status do you have a spare room, your motivation to adopt and things lifestyle factors like your work etc. Most agencies seem to do this part over phone but sounds like yours is face to face. We then found we were asked to go go an info event. They frame this as optional but I got the impression this is seem as necessary. The info eve we went to was invaluable as we got to see profiles hear about how the agency approached working with adopters and some.of the likely challenges. We spoke to a couple agencies who don't really do info eves and instead their next step would be visiting you at home. I think this part you're doing now is really.imporrant and worthwhile. In the few weeks we talked to about 4 or 5 agencies and i got a real sense of which I could see us working with and which I couldn't. Some social workers I spoke to gave off a bit of a negative slightly cold vibe which i knew would make things difficult as I need to feel comfortable with the ppl I'm going through this huge life experience with. One of the agencies we spoke to we got a much better more efficient and human sense from and this helped us make our decision they'll be our choice when we do go for it. The only other thing id say ia dont be put off if they lay on negativity about the children a bit thick. They need to do this to test at early stages which parents can handle likely challenges and are not put off by things and which don't show that resilience and are perhaps going in a bit naive. Just show that you've done your research and are informed about the types of children placed for adoption. Nothing will be too in-depth at this stage so my advice is don't show you've ruled anything out just more or less approach qs with an open mind. Happy to msg if you ever need someone to chat to and would love to hear how it goes. All the best xxx
I had been looking at several agencies for some time, attended open events for two and then we contacted Barnardos who after an initial phone call, wanted to meet us. That was just over two weeks ago, we have now had our first approval into stage one and been here for 5 days now. All our references have been sent out and we have medicals booked.
The SW will see how nervous you will be, which is fine because it would be unnatural if you weren’t. They would like to see you relax as you go through your meeting, which should naturally happen without you trying to hard. Openness and honestly is what they are after from you. I think that you will be surprised just how human they are themselves, so please don’t panic. They will probably have a little look around the house and want all of the basics on you, most importantly they want to see readiness and want your motives to adopt.
Honestly, I was petrified but our SW did well to put us at ease and got all that she needed from us. Good luck
Hi all thanks for all your lovely comments I'm nursery nurse so hopefully go in my favour I'm pretty much ready for adoption after several failed attempts of Ivf ready for next chapter of my life we are looking into siblings adoption cause of my age of 41 I will like to share my experiences with you all through the process so once I have my meeting I will let you both know xx
Hi guys hope you don't mind me joining - we are just starting the process - have had failed fertility treatment but had already been looking into adoption options and what we might looks to do. Attended two local authorities open day and have chosen the one we would like to go with. They have asked that we wait for 6 weeks from date if failed treatment to get back in contact with them and we can then get the process rolling. Am excited, nervous, scared and happy we are moving along all at the same time! Would be great to chat to you guys as we are all in the sane boat. I think next steps will be a two evening training course to learn more about adoption and I guess test us on our resilience a little bit. Considering adopting siblings but don't know if we are mad to or not! X
Hi Dlouise, Welcome to the world of adoption! From my experience it’s a far more positive world than that of fertility treatment. 6 weeks is no time at all, you have already done your research by finding this thread. If you want to be active before you begin, there is a whole thread on here on all different videos to watch which are really very good. While I waited to start, I read ‘building the bonds of attachement’ which was really good and our SW thought was good too. There is training to attend but also a massive amount of paperwork on yourself, I mean loads. We are wading through it at the moment, it will all be worthwhile in the end
welcome Dlouise sorry I haven't been on here that much with family commitments work I have been on here as much as I had liked so sorry if I haven't responded we are considering sibling adoption i don't think i am mad i wanted two but then my husband said he would consider three I'm not sure about that one hehehe we have had a meeting with the local authority one in February and they said we couldn't start until july cause finishing my fertility treatment i would like to get you know you all on your journeys i think with the fertility treatment i kept myself to myself as it was personal to us but with the adoption it is personal but i want to talk about it to people so don't bottle things up like i did with the fertility
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