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Goodbye Present? (Birth Parent)

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darkriver198868 Fri 09-Feb-18 16:16:25

I have final contact coming up in a few months and my girls are going to be adopted. I want to buy them a keep sake each. What would you suggest?

Ted27 Fri 09-Feb-18 16:50:00

my 13 year old still sleeps with a small teddy bear his birth dad gave him. It travels with us if we are away.

Or maybe a piece of jewellery - silver necklace or bracelet with their initials ?

bostonkremekrazy Fri 09-Feb-18 17:06:19

A picture of you - or you together - in a special frame.
Our children are sad they dont have pics of birth mum/dad. We display the one they do have of mum ☺.
I hope your contact goes well 🌹

Italiangreyhound Fri 09-Feb-18 18:36:37

Something timeless like locket on a chain with a photo on. Slightly different one for both girls (assuming two but different for all girls if more).

I hope the contact goes very well. Can you take plenty of photos.

RandomMess Fri 09-Feb-18 18:43:49

I would do a small washable soft toy and a piece of jewellery and definitely yes to lots of photos of you together thanks

jacobsgirl Fri 09-Feb-18 19:29:03

I feel like a special soft toy maybe a build a bear with special message recorded !
Me being clumsy would loose jewellery and that would break my heart x

cosmos239 Sun 11-Feb-18 17:37:31

I'd suggest some kind of keepsake nice box / Jewellery etc rather a toy. What about a a name plaque for their room, you can make one easily out of Lego pieces superglued onto a Lego base, it's a really nice way of you giving your child 'permission' to settle in their new home and this is an incredibly precious thing you can do for them. I definitely wouldn't record a voice message as from an adopters perspective I wouldn't have felt happy giving my son a toy with a voice recording, eventually it will run out and that could unsettle a child and not all adopters would be comfortable with it.. Take care of yourself

thomassmuggit Sun 11-Feb-18 19:46:41

I think it depends on the age. For a baby, a soft toy they can take everywhere could be really beneficial, but please make it something easily bought in the shops in case of loss! Or even buy two.

Jewelry is lovely, too. They can keep it in their memory box until older. Maybe your favorite book as a child? Or something else you had, that they may like?

And a photo in a frame is a good idea, too.

thomassmuggit Sun 11-Feb-18 19:47:10

Also, sorry, thoughts for you at this hard time, I cannot imagine.

darkriver198868 Sun 11-Feb-18 21:05:17

I have decided on a necklace each which says "I love to the moon and back" for the girls to go in the memory boxes. I wasn't comfortable with a voice recording. I also was concerned that if I did a voice recording the adopters wouldn't let the girls keep it.

Thank you for all your kind wishes.

thomassmuggit Sun 11-Feb-18 21:21:54

That sounds perfect. I hope the final contact goes well. Please take photographs, we don't have any, and it's such a shame.

Shannonlynn Mon 12-Feb-18 22:09:02

Sounds lovely, I hope that all goes okay in final contact. X

jacobsgirl Tue 13-Feb-18 10:03:10

That's beautiful I didn't really think the voice recording suggestion through

Sending love thanks

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