My friend is bringing her adoptive daughter, 5yrs, home on Saturday. Is there anything in particular that might be special or anything I should avoid? or am I overthinking it and go for standard things 5 year olds like? I understand she has been through a tough time, so really don't want to get it wrong.
That's really lovely you want to mark the occasion. First i would just check with your friend whether buying a gift is ok. Sometimes kids faced with a massive change might have to have the "new" things in their life kept to a minimum. I'd be more tempted to get a "new mum" gift for your friend.
It's lovely to think of them both, maybe send your friend some flowers and wait for her DD to settle in before buying something. My two are a similar age and brought tonnes of toys with them. We waited to see what they actually played with and got a sense of where they were at developmentally - you might find she's working at a younger age than 5 and needs younger toys.
We really appreciated the cards and the fact that people marked the ocassion! For us we appreciated gifts that were given to us at the end of first meetings for us to give to our little one at an appropriate time. He settled well but struggled with “presents” especially things that he perceived were replacing things he already had eg duplo when he had brought some from F.C. For me, the most wonderful presents were things that people may have given us if we had had a baby (eg a beautiful mug with his name on was given to him from a friend which was exactly what I had bought her when she gave birth) meant a lot to me. You could always do a card for now and buy something when you get know her LO. But I’m sure she will appreciate the thought whatever you get.
Another yes to the cards and flowers. A friend did the same for me because as she said 'all new mum's get flowers" I thanked her profusely but don't think she'll ever know how much that meant to me - to be treated just like any other new mum
Card definitely. You can get adoption ones, but also in the 'births' section you can find cards that work too that don't have pictures of babies or use word baby - e.g. 'New daughter' that kind of thing.
For any presents, agree with go slightly younger rather than older.
Consumables are good, e.g. paint, paper for painting on, playdough. Or simple craft, nothing needing fine motor skills, definitely go younger than box says so 3-5 not 5-7. Or sticker books. And also, not wrapped up, given to parent in a carrier bag. Parent can then put aside or say 'look what XX has brought'.
One of the best (most useful) presents we had was 4 paint pots!
Great. I'd been looking at the birth wall art things on not on the high st, or maybe a fletcher & mills height chart because I love mine. I'll take a family ready meal and a dressing up outfit in a bag! Thanks!