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Been asked to have an early medical

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catlover1987 Mon 18-Dec-17 13:46:26

We had out initial meeting with our VA last week and they have asked me to do an early medical before they can sign us up for the prep course. I have had issued with anxiety, and have had two periods off work in the last 2 years (1 for 8 weeks and 1 for 6 weeks.)

I now manage my anxiety well. I take medication and have had counselling. I now understand why I am anxious and this largely stems from my own chaotic childhood. I am so much more self aware now and also attend weekly mindfulness classes, so I don't think I will get ill again. I can totally see why they would be concerned, but I am worried this will count against me.

Has anyone experiences anything similar and how did it turn out? Thanks.

Jellycatspyjamas Mon 18-Dec-17 14:02:48

It won't necessarily count against you, all the things you've done to get better will certainly count in your favour during the assessment process and will help you cope when kids are placed.

I had two significant periods of anxiety related illness during our assessment - not related to adoption but both times we stopped the process until I was well again. They'll want an early medical because they may want specialist reports for panel - my therapist provided a report on my suitability to cope with adoption - and ifvthey do need that kind of thing they won't want it to delay things. Be open to talking about it and you should be fine.

catlover1987 Mon 18-Dec-17 15:11:52

Thank you so much jellycat. That's very reassuring and my gp has always commented on how pro active she thinks I am in trying to manage it so hopefully she will be positive.

Rainatnight Thu 21-Dec-17 23:34:30

I have anxiety and had had some time off work not that long before we started the process. SW was really pleased I was honest. They're looking for honesty and evidence that you've dealt with it.

Italiangreyhound Fri 22-Dec-17 05:37:33

I had anxiety a long time ago, had CBT and it worked brilliantly (I know it is not right for everyone).

I agree with others, the fact you have identified a problem and taken steps to resolve/manage is very positive.

Good luck.

Choccogoingcuckoo Fri 22-Dec-17 07:48:20

We had early medicals due to my ex dp mental health disorder and psychiatric supporting letter and we proceeded through to prep groups to eventually be approved as adopters.

I think its a great idea to do the early medical as it's a tough process and I personally wouldn't have wanted to emotionally bought into the idea of adopting if the medicals were going to eliminate us from being potential adopters.

Our local authority medical advisor spoke to us at the prep group and said it's difficult for sw to decline someone based on medical problems as there's a cure or medicine for almost everything nowadays and the important bit is how you manage your condition so it doesn't manage you. Make a case for yourself about what self care and support systems you have for yourself such as do you use relaxation apps, eat and drink healthy, yoga/pilates to destress, support system such as friends to talk to, see a therapist for CBT for methods to help manage stop the anxiety taking over. (You don't have to answer, it's just all food for thought). This gives sw an indication of what action you'd take for and child who may also have anxiety etc.

It sounds like you'll pass with flying colours especially being proactive. Good luck.

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