On my mentioning by son has birth sibs (mentioned as they have direct contact and are very present in each others' lives) "Maybe she (birth mum) should have thought about closing her legs. Don't you think?"
The worst thing said to us when our 2nd adopted DS died was well it is not like losing your own, it was many years ago and when another adopted DS died attitudes had not changed. Although both boys came with short life expectancy it still hurts so much. People are so hurtful and stupid.
I lose count of the amount of people that tell me our kids birth mothers should have been sterilised! Makes me so angry on so many levels - most birth mothers can’t parent because they should have been helped themselves when they were kids and my kids wouldn’t be here if we could just go around sterilising whoever society deemed not deserving of having their own choice!
Sorry everyone for repeating myself but it still hurts. Another thing that always gets my goat is, ooh you are so good fot taking on special needs children they are so lucky. No we are the lucky ones, poor little buggers have been landed with us. People do not see their beauty spots.