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My hopes are well and truly UP!(9 Posts)
Despite all attempts not to get them UP!
Had a phone call from our SW today with a potential link. We actually saw an early family finding profile of his back in August before we were approved but his proceedings finished quicker than expected so they linked him with a couple already approved. That match has now fallen through (luckily before he went home with them so no really emotional distress). So here we are!
There are no real health concerns, he's meeting every milestone, and by all accounts he's a happy and lovely little boy. I don't want to get my hopes up but eeeeeeek!!
Potentially outing here because I've told a friend this, but his name is not only the name we would have chosen, which is also an important family name in both me and my husband's families, BUT he has the same first and middle name as one of my grandad, and his second middle name and surname are my others grandads name! Definitely feels like fate
Great news OP, I really hope it works out for you. Do you know the reasons the link before fell through, where they actually matched for example? May be worth getting to the bottom of if not. This is such a happy time 😃
That's lovely Pipplebang. Fingers crossed it all works out.
I think sometimes you should just indulge the excited feelings - as a wise old owl said to me 'a pessimist may be proven right in the long run but an optimist as more fun along the way'
They started introductions but my social worker said she can't tell my why it fell through for confidentiality reasons - she has assured me though that it was nothing to do with the baby.
dimples I think you're right I'm allowed to get a bit excited! Apparently they always had us in the back of their minds incase the match fell through, so I'm hoping his social worker wants to proceed with us!
Ooh sounds v promising. I so hope it works out for you x
When our SW first rang about our ad sheaccidentally let slip her name - i had a really lighning bolt moment, a real feeling of I have just heard my daughter's name.
BUT i parked it and read the PAR - all the words and all the stuff in between the lines!
I would keep v quiet about the special name and try and put it to the back of your mind.
Also kids with fasd will often meet their milestones so be rigorous.
But that said - marvellous!!!
Thanks JustHappy, I should have mentioned that we both read the report before I posted this! Obviously it's not perfect but there's nothing in there that concerns us (a potential hereditary health issue that runs in my family anyway so could have been dealing with that with a birth child, and I know how to handle it). Just waiting for his social worker to see our PAR now
We also had that feeling of 'fate' throughout. Names, similarities in features to us, etc. Good luck!
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