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BBC documentary - an interesting watch

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Thepinklady77 Wed 04-Oct-17 20:35:05

This documentary was on BBC 4 on Sunday night. It is about the work of the Pause project that works with women who have had multiple children removed in helping them to rebuild their lives in a positive way to give them a better future. it provides helpful insight into the effects of the loss on birth families.

Child in Mind: www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/b097bkcy via @bbciplayer

allthebestkids06 Wed 04-Oct-17 22:41:41

Thanks Pink
watching now - about halfway through and so sad for the BM's whose LOs were removed due to DV. Very sad.

the letterbox viewpoint was very interesting - we don't get a reply, its hard thinking about why that is....

I've always hoped our BP can rebuild their lives, I think every person deserves hope - what else is there? I could not live without my kids - quite frankly I don't know how BP get through the days...and its no wonder drink/drugs are so often involved after removal

mogulfield Wed 04-Oct-17 22:49:23

Thanks for posting Op, that looks really interesting and is not seen it advertised. Will give it a watch.

Monkeybrains2017 Thu 05-Oct-17 07:27:23

Watched this on iplayer-thought was really good and hope it gets moved to bbc one/two so a wider audience can watch and be informed.

OurMiracle1106 Thu 05-Oct-17 11:39:54

Thanks for posting. I will at some point over weekend (with tissues and ice cream) watch it.

I'm wondering if there are any other similar projects and how you would find them for BP in other parts of country (such as me)

anxious123 Thu 05-Oct-17 12:06:25

I'll give it a watch later.

Miracle - just out of curiosity have you ever found any support for BP's? I've looked previously for myself and essentially hit brick walls other than something that felt like it was added on as an after thought.

OurMiracle1106 Thu 05-Oct-17 12:21:41

It's very hard to get support. Depending where you are in the country anxious. I'm London based. There is PAC who do help, but the most help I got was via adoption counselling which the local authority provided- after being pushed by my solicitor. They do still have a duty of care and should provide this too.

If you ever want to talk/meet with a birth mum please PM me as I'd be happy to

anxious123 Thu 05-Oct-17 15:12:58

Thanks Miracle - shame I'm not still London Based - am up north somewhere near Newcastle these days but if I'm ever down south I'll certainly shout up smile

Thepinklady77 Thu 05-Oct-17 17:25:30

Miracle I am sorry I can't suggest any agencies that do help birth families specifically nationwide. Pause do operate in some London boroughs though you can look them up. I think though they work on a referral base. I can tell from your posts you have come a long way and I am full of admiration for you. I do hope you continue to have acces to support to continue to build your life. I have seen first hand the effects of loosing a child to adoption has on birth family and I know that it is something you never get over even if people manage to go on and sort their lives out and have further children who can remain with them. Hugs!

Italiangreyhound Thu 05-Oct-17 17:57:42

I must watch this, thank you.

bellasuewow Thu 05-Oct-17 20:23:32

It was brilliant and really nice to see something which at the end I found uplifting not just all sadness like a lot of stuff I have seen about adoption. The letter that one of the birth mothers wrote to her adopted son was amazing and will mean so much to him. What the charity does is amazing. I think this documentary is a must see for those considering and involved in adoption. It was so brave of the birth mothers to take part. I am sure there are many who never opened the door to them and never will which is a shame.

Italiangreyhound Thu 05-Oct-17 23:45:14

Bloody hell Pinklady that was so moving.

Thepinklady77 Fri 06-Oct-17 07:42:18

Yes Italian, it really was. It struck a chord with me as having seen first hand a couple of birth parents grasping with both hands the last lifeline being offered to them and for one particularly it was the start of changing a lifetime of behaviours. I have a passion to see more of this type of work available to support a lifelong change! It was a helpful film for those involved, and in particularly in the early stage of adoption, in allowing them to get a deeper understanding of the situations hat can lead to the hectic lifestyles that some birth families have.

DeegeeDee Fri 06-Oct-17 19:13:04

Thanks Pinklady77, will watch that this weekend.

Hels20 Fri 06-Oct-17 21:17:05

Thanks Pinklady - I would have missed this but for your prompt.

I watched it today. These programmes are always heart breaking but I thought the women and Pause came across very positively.

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