So, my DC have been with us full time now for 3 weeks 😀 and slowly, slowly we're adjusting to family life. Both struggle with toileting.
DS(4) simply forgets to go, usually when he's watching tv he gets so engrossed he literally forgets to go and pees himself. DD(6) is slightly different in that she'll forget to go but also soils herself. I'm getting her checked by the GP because she complains of pain but she will soil herself ever so slightly for 2 days before actually doing a proper poo, if you know what I mean.
Sitting her on the toilet causes her huge amounts of distress and she'll soil herself almost immediately after coming off again (I had her on toilet breaks at 30 minutes intervals and she soiled herself in the 30 minute gap). As feustrating as it can be for me - can go through 5 or 6 changes of clothes for both kids in one day - it's distressing and embarrassing for both children. I know toileting is one of the areas children subconsciously use to maintain a feing of control and it may just settle in time but I also think they've very much been left to their own devices in foster care and not been supported to learn how to read "urges" or indeed how to wipe their own bottom or clean themselves effectively. Any practical advice in how to help them both with this would be very welcome.
On a very practical level, the whole house smells of urine and poo - at least it feels that way - I feel like the Milton queen trying to keep everything clean and my poor washing machine has never had so much work!
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Jellycatspyjamas · 25/08/2017 07:17
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