My so called friend has thrown the fact that my son was placed for adoption in my face because I haven't been around much lately.
Back story. My mum died 3 years ago this month. Friday would have been her 70th birthday. I work with kids and friend has just had a baby. I'm struggling emotionally to deal with kids as it is, my sons birthday is within The next couple of weeks.
Friend says I've been funny with her since baby came home (I went back to work day after baby came home) I work 5 days a week.
Apparently I can't care As much as I say about my son. It isn't healthy that I talk abut it him and people that have their kids taken shouldn't be allowed a second chance or more kids.
I understand she may have post natal depression but I don't see there is a way forward from here for our friendship
I have blocked on all platforms so she can't contact me anymore but feeling low
Oh I'm not surprised you're feeling low. What an tough thing to hear from your friend. Recently at work I sat with a birth parent who's child was adopted years ago. They'd recently had letterbox and was heartbroken. I knew there were reasons their child isn't with them but I still felt heartbroken for them, it was just so hard to see. It's not a pain that necessarily ever goes away.
Is your friend someone you'd be able to explain how you feel after the dust has settled? Are they usually a bit more accepting/kind? This may be a one off if she's feeling emotional and has a new baby.
I know when I'm having a tough time I struggle to make space for other people's difficulties/problems which can make me a bit less tolerant. You know your friend best though so I could be way off the mark.
It's so sad losing a friendship and it sounds like this has really hurt you deeply and I'm not surprised. I'm sorry you've had this experience. I fell out with a life long friend around 5 years ago. No contact since. It hurt but I can honestly say I don't miss her all that much.
I hope you're able to be kind to yourself and realise this is your friends issue and not yours. It must be horrid to feel judged by a trusted person and have something so personal and painful thrown back at you.
Anniversaries and special dates are so hard, hope these upcoming dates are as easy for you as they can be.
I have followed some of your story and know how hard losing your little boy has been and how hard you have worked to put your life on track . Dont let this drag you down. She is no friend and you owe her nothing so i think you are right to ignore her and move on . So sorry for your pain and esp at this time when you are grieving on two fronts. Chin up and stay strong xxx
My friend has messaged me via a different face book profile to say they will be thinking of me on my sons birthday (which is shortly)
I've replied with the following: Whilst I appreciate that you have remembered birth child's birthday, following you outlining your feelings in regards to my situation with Birth child I don't feel it's appropriate for you to be "thinking of me" when you have made your feelings perfectly clear. I hope you got the photo from my fridge safely.