Some background- we have two preschool birth DC and are weighing up the idea of adopting. We understand from (very brief conversation with an adoption agency) that we would probably have to wait until our youngest was at least three or four to ensure a) we had enough time for an adoptive child and b) that they were younger than our youngest birth child.
I'm a SAHM but my previous work has been in child protection and SEN.
Can anyone talk to me about adopting after birth children.. what have your experiences been?
Also, the initial conversation with Adoption agency was difficult because they couldn't seem to understand our reasoning. Could you help me understand their incomprehension?! I have been v ill with severe (hospitalising) morning sickness both times and had bad birth complications too. We have always wanted three but another pregnancy seems risky.
Thirdly, would foster to adopt be a good option? We are in two minds. Through my work, I've seen how difficult it can be (with all the love and care in the world) to help children once initial attachment is so broken. So I can see the appeal of 'having' your child earlier in their life. On the other hand, I worry that it could be damaging to my birth children if we had to 'give them back'.
Thank you for all your advice and thoughts.
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Primaryteach87 · 11/03/2017 23:52
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