We went to court this morning. And the judge passed the order. We just have to wait for the 21 days to appeal to go by but the judge advised birth father that he would be foolish to try.
He refused to put in a statement. He didn't consent or oppose. The judge dispensed with his consent and wrote the order and refused to acknowledge his silliness over the dc surnames and opted to give them our surname, which is obviously what we wanted.
We really couldn't be happier. Waiting for a celebration hearing date now. Thank you to everyone who was supportive and informative. You were a great help to me.
Oh that's great. Well done for holding your nerve on his control issue and well done the court for putting the kids first.
Hope that you can now put all that legal stuff behind you and just get on with being a family, like you have been for years. Only difference is that now you have the piece of paper and the legal security for the children .
Thank you Somerville. Yes, it's crazy how little info there is. You'd think it would be much swifter than your standard 2 people adopting a child scenario but ours has been really tough. If you need to talk about anything or have questions, just ask. I'm not an expert by any stretch but I'll try.
Our situation is somewhat different than yours, in that my children's (wonderful) father has died. I remarried recently and my kids have made it very clear that if anything happens to me (which they have a lot of worries about) they want to stay with DH. Which we can achieve by me giving him PR/ being clear of intentions in my will and the like, but when we've talked this over with the children they would like him to adopt them. We need to put a lot of thought into that, but it's hard to when there is so little information out there.
Oh, I am sorry for their loss and yours Very different to my situation as you say but being clear in their wishes is the most important thing.
Have you contacted the local authority? That was our first step to get the information that we wanted. We had a telephone conversation explaining the situation then a duty social worker came to our house and explained all the options and the process.