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What did you wear to panels and court?

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Fooksakeduckie Wed 11-Jan-17 20:25:09

Hi, just that really. DP and myself have been approved and possible match. I'm wondering what did you wear to matching/linking panels etc?

I have a christening soon and thinking a nice outfit might do all but are the panels that dressy?

Thanks, it might seem stupid pondering this but literally in limbo unable to do any other preparing for a little one.

flapjackfairy Wed 11-Jan-17 21:16:55

I just went in smart casual. Black trousers and smartish top. Dont really do dressy!
I have court in 3 weeks and plan on similar. No need to be too dressy imo but sure you could get dolled up if that is what you prefer . It wouldnt look out of place .

luckylucky24 Wed 11-Jan-17 21:50:22

The social workers don't dress up so no need for you to. I think I wore black trousers and a nice top.

sweetchilli77 Wed 11-Jan-17 22:14:02

i just went with smart top/jacket and pants, almost like an interview iyswim.
but with a bit of dress jewellery so i didn't look too wooden/formal

Rainatnight Thu 12-Jan-17 07:17:12

Same here. Smart casual.

tldr Thu 12-Jan-17 19:43:07

Panel was casual casual for me, court was semi-smart (like Sunday best smart) because we turned it into an event.

ac73 Thu 12-Jan-17 20:58:50

Casual here. Jeans I think!

Noodles0580 Thu 12-Jan-17 21:01:27

Smart casual is fine, just be yourself. Congratulations smile

Noodles0580 Thu 12-Jan-17 21:02:11

*smart or casual that should say!

MermaidCafe Thu 12-Jan-17 21:11:34

I sit on an adoption panel - it would be very unusual for someone to dress in formal clothes or christening dress. Most people wear casual every day clothes and some wear slightly smarter than usual. Wear what you feel relaxed in!

UnderTheNameOfSanders Fri 13-Jan-17 11:02:54

We wore work clothes for panel as we popped out of work to go to it. You want to feel 'comfy' in whatever you choose.

Court we wore smart as formal occasion with fancy photos. DDs wore party dresses.

Stevemcqueenlikesbeans Fri 13-Jan-17 12:39:31

We dressed up for Celebration day, but for panels i wore jeans and nice blouse. Don't dress as for job interview, it's way more casual. Most of all good luck!!!

Fooksakeduckie Fri 13-Jan-17 16:32:55

I'm so glad I asked haha! Thanks.

Themoleandcrew Fri 13-Jan-17 17:24:21

I wore a tea dress and tights with boots and a cardi. Sort of thing I'd wear if I was going out for lunch. OH wore jeans and a shirt. Bit of an effort but not dressed up.

Kr1stina Tue 17-Jan-17 10:03:24

No , don't wear christening /wedding outfit.

Think smart casual office wear. Plain, modest and boring. Top and skirt /trousers/ smart jeans or plain dress. DH in open neck shirt or polo shirt, tie if he really wants to. Imagine you are going for a job interview in Next.

Don't attempt to " show your personality " or be " fun". No cleavage, mini shorts or mini skirts or slogan t shirt. No bleached and ripped jeans with your bum hanging out. No stripper shoes .

You are trying to look like a safe pair of hands. No one ever got turned down for being too boring.

You are trying to impress them with your commitment and understanding of the role , not your edgy fashion sense.

Kr1stina Tue 17-Jan-17 10:04:52

Sorry, by plain dress I meant office type dress, not clubbing type dress. Not that you can't wear a dress with a pattern !

Stevemcqueenlikesbeans Tue 17-Jan-17 14:08:43

Can I confess that on the morning of our panel I dragged DH into local town and spent a fortune on an "emergency" Joules blouse with pheasants on it as I had a last minute wardrobe panic.

My befuddled theory was that I'd look nice and mumsy plus a country animal lover too???!

Kewcumber Tue 17-Jan-17 14:25:33

I wore my Lucky Boots.

Kewcumber Tue 17-Jan-17 14:25:53

as well as some clothes.

Kr1stina Tue 17-Jan-17 14:35:58


Kewcumber Tue 17-Jan-17 14:40:36

And now I feel cheated that I didn't have a pheasant blouse.

Fooksakeduckie Tue 17-Jan-17 20:36:37

Better return those glittery flashining stripper shoes then haha. Okay, I've got this, plain Jane smart but casual. Pretty much anything in the wardrobe...but I'll still buy something new anyway wink it is a confidence booster if you feel nice.

Kr1stina Wed 18-Jan-17 02:17:55

I was thinking of this peasant blouse

Kr1stina Wed 18-Jan-17 02:18:46

Instead of this pheasant blouse

ZeeWesty Sat 21-Jan-17 18:16:30

Husband and I popped out from work so I just wore an officey dress and he wore his everyday suit (though I had a last minute wobble before approval panel at my manager over whether my gold cardigan would look too "flashy" and she had to calm me down a bit!!)

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