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Mollybird1 Sun 08-Jan-17 11:55:26

Hi. Just after a bit of advice really. Can anyone tell me what to expect in a home visit from a childs sw? We enquired about a baby boy a month or so ago and have just had email from our sw saying that the baby's sw wants to visit us! We've had quite a lot of info about the baby. We don't know his name yet or haven't seen any photos. Do you think they will bring some along? Will they want a tour of the house, maybe see where his bedroom will be? Or is it just to meet us and ask us questions. I'm wondering too if there are other couples they are thinking about, can we ask that question do you think? Feeling excited and nervous, but trying to keep calm about it! Many thanks.

UnderTheNameOfSanders Sun 08-Jan-17 12:07:02

They want to see if you will be a good fit.

If there are medical or background issues, have you thought about how you would deal with them, do you have relevant questions. Are you planning on going back to work, what is the strength of your support network.

They may want to see bedroom. (I think we forced the SW to see the rooms for our DDs smile ).

Definitely ask if you are the only couple they are visiting. We lost out twice to the 'other couple', after which our SW said she would only let us be seen if we were the only or preferred couple. (But this was 10 years ago and we were going for siblings).

You need to sound enthusiastic, but also level headed as to what you are taking on.

Best of luck.

luckylucky24 Sun 08-Jan-17 15:22:32

Ours wanted to see the bedroom for lo and to see us and how we felt about it. They came back and said they were concerned we were not "excited enough" coz we were shitting it so definitely be enthusiastic. Try to ask plenty of questions, we didn't have many for her mostly for others and it was a little awkward.

CrazyCatLaydee123 Sun 08-Jan-17 18:38:51

We put on a decent spread of sandwiches and crisps for ours (they had travelled about 1.5hrs on the train). They seemed to like that and even mentioned it at matching panel!

Rainatnight Mon 09-Jan-17 00:38:59

They want to get a general sense of you. They'll have read your PAR so will be looking to see what you're like in flesh and blood. And there could be all sorts of specifics they might want to know like what's your plan for adoption leave? How about after that? How do you think you'd meet this child's particular needs? What's the neighbourhood like? (These are all questions we were asked).

And as PPs have said, they'll want to see LO bedroom, garden if you have one, etc.

Rainatnight Mon 09-Jan-17 00:39:14

Ps Good luck!

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