So, DD has asked - seemingly out of the blue - if she can visit her last foster carers, the ones she lived with directly before being placed with me. This is absolutely fine by me, her foster carers were lovely and we had a positive rapport. We've talked about them as part of DDs life story and she's been aware that they looked after her whilst SWs were trying to find her new family. To be honest it's not entirely unexpected as she seems to be processing a lot about her history, her identity and her past at the moment.
My only concern is that as we have never had any post placement contact with them would it possibly be too weird and unsettling for DD to see them again now (she's been home for a number of years). And if it is a good idea, which I think it probably is (even though it terrifies me) what is the best way to go about arranging a meeting? Do I contact them directly? I still have their mobile phone number and address as we send a card every Christmas. Do we go through SS? Do we go to their house? Do we meet somewhere neutral? Is it appropriate / safe for DD to meet with the other children who are part of the family?
I'm at a bit of a loss as to how best to proceed with this one so any thoughts or advice greatly appreciated.
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Poppystellar · 16/12/2016 19:59
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