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ADM wants a second opinion

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user1471555041 · 06/09/2016 21:52

We went to matching panel recently and were due to start introductions shortly. We received a call today from our SW advising that despite getting a unanimous yes at panel the ADM is seeking a second opinion. This is due to us going through a placement breakdown over a year ago due to negligence on the part of the placing authority. We feel utterly devestated that we are in this position. Hoping for the best but can't help but feel it's all going to go wrong again. Not really sure why I'm posting just need to vent.

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flapjackfairy · 06/09/2016 22:30

So sorry to here that you are in this position especially as you are so close to introductions. It is devastating to feel that you are having the rug pulled out from underneath you and there is nothing you can do about it.Personally I have found the whole adoption process to be incredibly frustrating as so often something that is so important to you and your family is completely out of your control. The fact that you got a unanimous yes must surely be a good sign and hopefully the adm is just covering their backs. There is little point in telling you not to worry as I am sure you will struggle to think of anything else but I hope they resolve it soon and you are able to move forward and meet your child/ren. I hope it helps to know that a lot of us going through the process understand how you feel and are sending you positive vibes. If you can please let us know how it is going and in the meantime stay strong and best of luck.

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Italiangreyhound · 06/09/2016 22:37

Thinking of you all.

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GirlsWhoWearGlasses · 07/09/2016 06:54

Absolutely fine to vent here.

What a rotten position to be in, and after you've already been through so much.

Wishing you all the best.

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jimbob1 · 07/09/2016 07:20

Flowers for you.

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Hels20 · 07/09/2016 13:16

I think I remember the breakdown. It sounded horrific and sounded like it was not your fault at all. I imagine you are probably nervous anyway and can't believe this is happening to you.
I am so sorry but I also am keeping everything crossed that this is just a formality and that it won't change the outcome.

Please keep us updated. Thinking of you

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user1471555041 · 07/09/2016 21:56

Thank you for all your kind words. Still no news unfortunately. Finding it very difficult to think about anything else. I'm not sure SS realise the effect this is having on us. Just have to hope tomorrow will be the day.

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ac73 · 07/09/2016 22:19

Thinking of you.

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PoppyStellar · 07/09/2016 23:22

You've really been through the mill. I hope everything works out for you. Stay strong Flowers

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LateToTheParty · 08/09/2016 13:36

Hope you get a positive decision soon.

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flapjackfairy · 21/09/2016 16:22

Dont mean to be nosey but any news.? Keep hoping to see a positive update. If you dont want to share thats fine . Still thinking of you

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user1471555041 · 21/09/2016 16:42

Thank you for thinking of us and sorry for the delayed response I couldn't work out where my post had gone! We got a yes from ADM so all systems go! 😊

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LateToTheParty · 21/09/2016 16:55

Brilliant! That's great news & you must be so relieved.

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PoppyStellar · 21/09/2016 18:05

Fantastic news, really pleased for you all

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Hels20 · 21/09/2016 18:44

Oh that is wonderful! When do intros start? Very soon?

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user1471555041 · 21/09/2016 18:59

Yes next week! Very happy and excited, it all worked out in the end :)

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tldr · 21/09/2016 19:07

Congratulations!

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flapjackfairy · 21/09/2016 22:44

Oh what great news. I have looked everyday hoping to see that it was resolved and luckily quite quickly it seems(though i am sure it felt like a lifetime to you!). Good luck with intros . How exciting ! Enjoy

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Italiangreyhound · 22/09/2016 00:13

Congratulations. Thanks

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Kr1stina · 22/09/2016 12:08

Great news !

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GirlsWhoWearGlasses · 22/09/2016 12:53

That's wonderful. Congratulations!

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