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Questions at info evening

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catlass Tue 26-Jul-16 11:49:42

Hello all smile

I wrote a thread last year discussing our thoughts on adoption. It is here

Basically we have decided that adoption is for us and our birth DC are now 2.5 and 4.5. After a lot of faffing about we have found two agencies that won't discount us based on the ages of our birth DC and we are going to their information evenings soon.

I'm wondering what sort of questions I should be asking the agencies, one is a council one not. I have already had a lot of my questions answered thanks to google over the last year or more of thinking about this ;). I'm going to ask them about the support they offer after, how long the process is, type of children available etc. But is there anything else we might not have thought about?

Thank you

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JustHappy3 Tue 26-Jul-16 13:02:49

You don't HAVE to ask questions. You can just sit and listen and take stuff in. All the ones you are asking are piece of string type ones. I wish i'd taken my own advice as i cringe at some of the ones i did ask! It's right at the start of the process - when they are weeding out the ones wanting a newborn from a nice, middleclass young mum who wants to go to uni. Having been on here you will find you are more clued up than others there.
But good luck with it all - it's worth the journey.

catlass Tue 26-Jul-16 13:31:26

Thank you. Yes I think we are fairly realistic in terms of the children available and wait times for the age ranges we will realistically be able to adopt. I'm just excited and nervous about right first impressions I think.

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pleasemothermay1 Tue 26-Jul-16 13:54:51

We adopted when dd was 2.5 by the time we were asssed she was 3 and by the time dd2 was placed dd1 was 3.5 😬

Please PM me if you want to no anything

catlass Tue 26-Jul-16 14:14:49

Ahhh that's brilliant thank you, I'm sure I'll take you up on that at some point! It's always nice to hear off someone who's adopted with young birth DC with it being so difficult with age gaps and agency requirements etc.

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RosieandJim89 Tue 26-Jul-16 20:14:34

whatever they say about timescales, take it with a pinch of salt!!!

catlass Tue 26-Jul-16 20:49:34

Ha, oh dear, shall keep that in mind. I think I'm going to need to practice my patience skills :/ !

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Rainatnight Thu 28-Jul-16 23:07:05

I asked about disruption rates and post-adoption support. But mainly just went to see what I thought of their 'vibe', and if we thought we'd click with them.

catlass Fri 29-Jul-16 08:34:44

Just thought I'd do a little update. We really liked the evening. It was very good, much better than q previous one we'd been to. We got to talk to some adoptive parents which was brilliant. We got a really good vibe from the LA. So we're going ahead! Sending off our register of interested and booking our Medicals. They like to get the Medicals done early. We've also had to chose our references as well so done that and asked them. Eeeeeeeeek.

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JustHappy3 Fri 29-Jul-16 21:19:35


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