I sometimes comment on here but I name change a lot. Brief background - DD 4 years old, been with us from a year old. Various challenges, on the whole very bright.
She is very disobedient and quite literally will not do as she is told i.e. If you put a necessary rule in place or just a house rule, she WILL break it. Again, and again, and again. The latest one is my garden, which I love. She knows not to pull heads of flowers, branches of trees, pick baby apples etc. She gets lots of outdoorsy walks and knows she can pick stuff in the woods but not in the garden. She knows to the extent she'll grass up her brother if he picks things and vice versa. But every day for weeks now she is going outside to play and picking stuff. She KNOWS. She totally KNOWS.
She gives in to every impulse she has which is part of it, but the other part of it is a deliberate need it seems to disobey me. She knows she isn't to throw all the cushions off the sofas and jump on the sofas. She has a trampoline for jumping on. But every day, guess what she does. Then she'll say 'sorreeee mummy' but actually she couldn't give a shit. And yes, for some that's no big deal, but it is a rule and whether its stupid or not, its a rule. I offer alternatives. I work hard to be fair. I try very hard. But she won't even try to play ball.
What the heck do we do? She is very clever, very strong willed which is great, but dammit she will not do anything she's told. I confiscated a toy for consistent bad behaviour yesterday after 2-3 warnings, when my back was turned she snuck off and took it back. I mean what do you do with that?
I've read books, do forums, know lots of other adopters...but I just don't know what to do. We are consistent, boundary parents - loads of fun and silliness - but there are a few basic rules. She won't follow any of them. Help!
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RachelLynde · 25/06/2016 11:13
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