I've wanted to adopt for most of my adult life. We have 1 DD of nearly 8 and it seems like now is a good time to begin in earnest.
But I am worried that every bit of reading says how intrustive and upsetting the approval process can be. I don't know what that means so I don't know how I can prepare.
I don't know what to tell DD, in her mind it will be a wonderful way to have a sibling which she desperately wants. Do I bring her down to earth with hard cold facts, does she need to know that now or can I wait until further down the line. Or will that make SWs think we're not serious and are living in a dreamworld. I'm really not but I'm a positive person and every time I think of adopting I think of making a difference to a child's life and how very enriching it will be for us and our adopted child. But I don't know how to get that over without sounding all airy-fairy and that I'm not aware of the reality of the lives that are lived before adoption.
Will the SW rip us to shreds, will DD be traumatised? Is it done to prove your worth, if you can get through that then you will be able to cope with everything. God, what does intrusive even mean?
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RebeccaWithTheGoodHair · 23/05/2016 14:31
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