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We are second time adopters. It has all happened v quickly and we have been given a CPR of a child a lot more quickly than I had envisaged.
The BM drank during pregnancy - "apparently" she stopped at about 4 months but don't know whether that is true. I know her personal situation was dreadful and so I can imagine she did still drink when she was pregnant. I do know she can stop (hair tests show it) so it could be true.
Child is just over a year. No FAS facial features. But there is some delay. Eg baby not crawling.
For various reasons, child would be a good fit for our family. But my question is this - did any one else take on a similarly "uncertain" child and find out it was much better than expected. I am not expecting an Einstein but ideally, I would like my children to ultimately become independent.
Our first adoption has had its challenges but DH and I can cope and have coped and couldn't imagine our life any different. It just seems that much more a bigger gamble as it will mean unsettling DC1.
I know there are grades of FAS and I know Fasparent as some awe inspiring stories (but she is an awesome lady by all accounts).
Thoughts anyone? Just feel so scared but excited too.
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Adopter12345 · 19/05/2016 18:59
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