My 21 month old grandson was placed with us at 5 months old and the plan is to apply for SGO later this year. I have always had some concerns he may have FAS as I know of at least 3 occasions when mum was very drunk during PG and no doubt there were many more times that I wasn't aware of. However, GS was a good weight when born and didn't appear to have any of the characteristic facial features ( though he did have a small head) so I put my doubts and worries about FAS to the back of my mind and concentrated on falling in love with my first gorgeous GC.
As he's grown his facial features have changed and one day I Googled FAS features and there was an image of a little girl looking like a twin of my GS staring back at me - small head, small eyes, epicanthal folds, short upturned nose, long smooth philtrum, thin upper lip and low nasal bridge. Also, GS developed some behaviours that concerned me i.e. he gets angry very quickly and bangs his head hard on the floor/furniture/cot purposely, scratches his own face in temper, throws things, is very, very active, blinks hard/screws his eyes up a lot and has speech delay. These behaviours could simply be toddler behaviours but I have had 5 children of my own and never known anything like it so my concerns increased. On the other hand he's so bright and loving, sleeps well, eats well and is just so adorable that I can't believe there could be anything wrong with him and kept telling myself I was worrying about nothing .
Last week we saw the peadiatrician about our concerns and, after lots of talking and answering his questions, the first thing he said was "I could tell from the minute he came through the door that this little boy has FAS because he has all the facial features".
After all the wondering and doubting myself the peadiatricians words have knocked me for six. We have now got to see the geneticist but I feel there's little doubt about the outcome and feel so anxious and worried about the future, how will we cope? What if we can't parent this little boy well enough? How can somebody as bright and loving and clever as this little boy have brain damage?
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MrsJen3 · 10/04/2016 10:49
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