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Mrscollydog Tue 01-Mar-16 20:50:04

A week after our beautiful little girlie arrived and life is very different. Jeez the introductions and first days were horrid, I really considered the possibility if disruption and feared we had made an awful mistake. I was certainly pulling back from the situation emotionally.
So a week after she has moved in things are getting better. We have a happy and affectionate little girl, the world is coming alive for her and she us taking massive joy out of everyday activities. She is still very anxious but we are beginning to learn the triggers and be able to help her. I don't know if its love yet but my middle goes extremely squishy when she smiles and laughs.
Things are improving, we are finding our new normal. The road will be rocky but at the moment there are no regrets.
Right off for my dinner of wine and crisps and to sit in my hovel of a lounge.
Thanks for the support lovely peeps.

TheIceCreamCometh Tue 01-Mar-16 21:20:51

flowers for you. It's hard, it's really hard, and just when you think it's getting easier it gets harder again. It does get better but (for us certainly) it can be a long road. I remember one awful night a few weeks in sobbing at DH that we had made a terrible mistake.

Introductions were one of the most stressful experiences I have ever had, and in fact are what is putting me off adopting again.

FWIW now we have a wonderful, wonderful four year old who we love with all our hearts, but it took about 18 months for everything to gel together.

Hang in there xx

GodMother78 Tue 01-Mar-16 21:22:00


tldr Tue 01-Mar-16 21:22:03

That's so nice to hear!

Don't worry if you don't feel love yet, it's early days.

thefamilyvonstrop Tue 01-Mar-16 21:57:35

Lovely post, so glad to hear you are seeing positive things.

UnderTheNameOfSanders Wed 02-Mar-16 11:17:56

Congratulations. Took me around 3 months to settle into it all, so don't worry if it takes time. flowers

Kr1stina Thu 03-Mar-16 18:44:37

Thanks for the update . And congratulations wine flowers

Mrscollydog Thu 03-Mar-16 20:23:24

Each day things are getting easier! We are slipping into family life as a foursome. LO is a gorgeous little diva, totally has her daddy and brother wrapped around her little finger. Keep waiting for things to go tits up again, but enjoying the honeymoon period. smile

Mollybird1 Thu 03-Mar-16 21:41:27

That's so lovely to hear. Well done!!
Hope you don't mind me asking, but how have people been at your sons school?,the other Mums in the playground, neighbours? Etc.. Sounds silly I know. We're still waiting to be matched but I do wonder what everyone's going to be thinking, I imagine we might be the playground/street gossip! did you tell everyone about your adoption before you got your daughter? We've just told family and friends.

Mrscollydog Thu 03-Mar-16 21:52:33

Our son told everyone at school so its been no secret. Everyone has been lovely and excited for us. We have always chatted about the process to friends and neighbours so they have all been with us on the journey.
Sure we are being gossiped about! I am just v proud to push my beautiful girl in her buggy! Let them look...

UnderTheNameOfSanders Thu 03-Mar-16 22:11:15

Molly A couple of days before our girls started doing intros at our house, we went round to the neighbours we knew and told them we were adopting. Mainly so we wouldn't get any hard to answer questions when we suddenly had 2 children with us.

Dancing12345 Thu 03-Mar-16 23:27:23

Hi there. So pleased to see already a week on that you are feeling better about things. From your post it sounds like perhaps your second adoption or perhaps first adoption after a birth child? Can I ask how old both children are and what it was that made you contemplate disruption in the first few days if you are happy to share? I ask because we have an (adopted) nearly 4 year old and go to matching panel for a nearly one year old later this month. Well done and congrats to your family.

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