Hi All,
Longtime lurker to the adoption forum, first time posting! First of all thanks to all the regular posters, these boards were a godsend when I first started the adoption process. So thank you!
I'm a single adopter, approved since Dec 2014. I have been tentatively linked with a LO who is 2.5yrs old, 3 this summer. There is a question mark over whether she may have FASD. The LA's medical adviser states it can't be ruled out as she thinks "BM has lied" about alcohol consumption during pregnancy and are of the opinion she has some of the associated facial features. The LO's SW & my SW don't agree (I haven't yet seen a photo of LO). LO has also been referred to a Geneticist at a local University who doesn't think she has it. As far as I can tell LO is meeting all of her milestones so far and other than some temper tantrums when first placed in FC she doesnt appear to present with any other behaviours associated with the condition. She also attends Nursery twice a week and they advise she doesnt present any differently from the other children. She also has 2 elder half siblings, neither of whom have a diagnosis of FASD. I have done a lot of reading re parenting a child with this condition and honestly I'm just not sure whether I could cope as a single, first time parent.
My question is, is she too young for a proper diagnosis? Is it quite possible that she may not display any signs now but may do so further down the line? If so, would these likely to be lower down on the spectrum or could she still present with more significant issues later on? The reports just seem to be so at odds with each other, the medical adviser is presenting quite a bleak scenario while SW is playing down the potential for FASD saying she feels the adviser is 'just covering their back' so to speak. Who would be more informed, the Dr or the Geneticist?!!
Any advice or links to relevant info would be gratefully received. Many thanks.
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Rey2216 · 15/02/2016 23:00
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