Hi, I posted this is chat but was advised to repost here.
I'm sorry for the pity post. I am so fed up. My DH and I have two children aged 5 and 7. They are adopted and had a difficult start in life, they have lived with us three years. At the moment I am feeling so unloved and unappreciated.
My children as soon as they get up they want their dad, who works long hours. When they are upset or sad they sit and cry for their dad. My youngest is still getting used to school and is tired all the time, she is often woken up by her older sister who can't sleep later than 6 in the morning. She shouts all the time and is generally horrid to people unless they are doing what she wants. I am tired of being shouted at for asking simple questions or not carrying out her unreasonable demands. Tonight she wants to go round to someone's house to play and won't believe me that we can't just turn up (we don't know them ) and she doesn't want me to invite them to play here.
My eldest has anxiety issues and likes to argue to assert control. She does things deliberately to see if I'll get cross. She becomes giddy and silly really easily and at the moment has taken to lying about lots of little things all the time.
A years and a half ago my DH wanted to go and work himself. Before this we shared childcare as I had to start work really early so I took a year off work so he could establish his business and I could look after the children. He earns so much more than me and I was only bringing home a tiny amount of income once childcare was covered that it has not made a huge difference financially. When it came back to me returning to work we agreed that there was little benefit from it and the household was generally less stressful when I was at home. This is true and the children are happier and I don't really want the stress of going to work and doing quite an emotionally demanding job!
However he now does nothing around the house except mutter that he can't find anything. Or huff and puff if I ask him to do anything.
I haven't found parenting easy. I think I'm rubbish at it. I get irritable too easily and I'm not really very good at playing it being silly. My children never want me despite the fact I do everything for them. They often won't eat the food I cook and I'm sure it's not that bad. I think at least when I was at work I had something I thought I could do well. I tried to talk to my DH and he said he gets it but nothing has really changed.
Sorry this is so long, would appreciate from any thoughts from outside my family.
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Chickenpie1 · 02/02/2016 19:03
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