We've been married now for almost 14 years...can hardly believe it.
DH is a good man.To meet him at first his intelligence and standoffishness can be intimidating. As soon as we met he told me he was adopted.
We have two DC's 9 and 11. But sometimes being married to him is sooo hard...and it's always my fault.
It's always me who starts the arguments, he's always sickeningly reasonable.
I try and think about why when everything is okay I feel I have to provoke him, hes never too happy or passionately angry. It's me who is desperately temperamental, he's always so rational. In fact when I get properly angry the worst thing I can possibly say, and probably the only thing that will eventually provoke him is threatening to leave him. Problem with that is it will take months for him to trust me again, he will never accept it's simply something I've said because I'm soo angry.
I have never considered the fact that he's adopted although I'm aware that despite his excrutiatingly rational demeanor he has a deep-seated fear of abandonment - it took me years to work that out.
Now I feel like I'm at a crunch point and I need help.
Is there anyone here got experience to share or could recommend good reading please?
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I never thought it's because he's adopted..
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Ineedachange · 13/01/2016 13:04
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