Welcome kierenthecommunity. As Devora says you cant go now, it's the Hotel California!
I did the *adOpt& course, it was pretty good. I would say the Family Links Nurturing Course is very similar, although not aimed specifically at parents of children who join the family by adoption and I did it before I adopted with birth dd in mind (then aged 8 I think).
If I remember rightly (always a challenge these days!) take a break is designed to give the parent and child a break from the 'situation', which will affect a change!
You start by telling the child about 'take a break', and allowing them to practise it by giving a teddy or dolly a 'take a break'. Obviously when all is calm.
I am pretty sure I did do this with our kids and they thought it was hilarious. They were much stricter with the teddies than we would be!
You are meant to 'warn' the child before they will get a take a break, but I do think warn is not quite the right word!
We have adapted this so I would just say 'Cassius (not his real name!) do you think you need to take a break?'
Sometimes he would choose to take a break himself. Sometimes not.
If the behaviour continues or tempers or temperatures continue to rise then the parent might tell the child to take a break. This could be in the same room as the adult, e.g. sitting on a cushion on the floor and just calming down or cooling down. Or it could be in the hall with the door open etc.
In the family links course you give the child an egg timer and they have one or two minutes to calm down.
Once the take a break is finished you don't need to get an apology (like Time out Super nanny style!) or to talk about it at all.
There are a few variations we use, one is that I take a break with the child, sitting together calmly, sometimes this works well, sometimes not.
Sometimes I leave the room. Last night Cassius has eaten no veg at all and very little else but still wanted a jelly. We said to eat 6 bits of veg, argument, 5 bits (like his age), I even made them into a face on a new clean plate! Argument, in the end he was getting very bothered and we settled on 4 pieces of veg but he wanted me to go away and leave him to it, I stepped into the kitchen and watched through the part open door as he calmly picked up the veg and ate it! Then I sat with him as he ate a jelly (with his hands!) while talking to it and calling it Bob (think Monsters Vs Aliens).
Result! He needed a break from me!
I never thought I would try and 'force' kids to eat anything and I didn't last night either but I did say no jelly if he did not eat any veg. He does get constipated a bit and I think the fact he is a bit of a veg-a-phob doesn't help.