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Tula22 Fri 18-Dec-15 13:37:21

First of all merry Christmas Everyone. Hope your ready and excited.

I don't write on here much but I lurk lots and have been help by all of you questions and answers.

It is our 1st Christmas with our lo and we have received a parcel with some wrapped gifts in from foster carers. We are not sure if we should check what they are and re-wrap them if appropriate or just wait and see.
We are torn because when she gave us a memory box for lo and showed us what was inside it was all lovely but before we picked the box up from her unbeknown to us she added inappropriate things from birth family. Luckily out lo never saw what she had added so we are able to show lo at an appropriate age.
Sorry rambling on now. Hopefully someone with more sense will be able to help me. Thanks for your help and advice.
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tldr Fri 18-Dec-15 16:17:03

It's probably really unlikely to be anything untoward, but as there's absolutely no downside to checking (except 5 wasted minutes), why not do that for peace of mind?

If there's any chance of upset I'd maybe think of giving those presents ahead of time too, so as not to spoil big day.

But I don't know your circumstances, obviously.

MintyLizzy9 Fri 18-Dec-15 17:07:40

I'd check for piece of mind. My sons foster carers had his prezzie sent to me directly from the shop so I could wrap. Probably nothing to worry about but if your concerned I'd have a check and a re wrap.
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Italiangreyhound Sat 19-Dec-15 02:08:11

Tula re It is our 1st Christmas with our lo

Congratulations.

...we have received a parcel with some wrapped gifts in from foster carers. We are not sure if we should check what they are and re-wrap them if appropriate or just wait and see.

Yes, good idea, best to see.

Re unbeknown to us she added inappropriate things from birth family. this is a real cause for concern, you do need to know what things are and where they come from, this alone would make me check.

I also agree with tldr that If there's any chance of upset I'd maybe think of giving those presents ahead of time too, so as not to spoil big day.

It's not to say the present won't be great etc, it is just if your ds was placed relatively recently then he may find it slightly upsetting and even if he has been with you a long time, you never know. Our ds has been with us about eight months when we had our first Christmas.

Tula22 Sat 19-Dec-15 22:42:15

Thank you everyone for all your replies. I have checked the gifts and I shouldn't have worried they were all fine. I'm glad I checked though as I would have just worried about it all the more.

Merry Christmas and hope yours are all amazing santasantasantawinewinewine

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