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anxious123 Mon 16-Nov-15 11:58:53

Just to let you know my birth sons AO has been granted.

I wish them all the best

thefamilyvonstrop Mon 16-Nov-15 13:19:14

How are you feeling, anxious?

Kewcumber Mon 16-Nov-15 13:39:19

Take care of yourself, it must be a strange thing to process.

anxious123 Mon 16-Nov-15 16:54:48

All over the shop to be honest. Pissed off that the social worker from child placement went from viewing me as the enemy then as soon as the order was granted was all lovely dovey with me. Like, yes hello I'm aware that was the outcome you wanted (I wasn't even freaking opposing it) no need to be smug.
No Ms Judge me attending today doesn't make me brave, doesn't mean I'm compassionate. It essentially meant I didn't full trust his new social worker to submit my statement as I wrote it. It means that whilst I know I've done the right thing, I don't trust the professionals involved to do the right thing. The dippy childrens guardian didn't even get his description right for the placement order ffs!
Today would of happened with or without me, I just needed to know, and need that beautiful boy to know, that I did everything I could to make sure it was right.

Sigh. Hard day. Excuse the rant. My LA need training in how to retain the good professional social workers.

Italiangreyhound Mon 16-Nov-15 18:10:50

Thinking of you today, Anxious and your lovely boy and hoping for a good life for him.

Haffdonga Mon 16-Nov-15 20:11:12

flowers for you anxious. I wish you all the best too.

It certainly sounds like you have got to this stage with such dignity despite social service's support rather than thanks to it. sad Perhaps one day in the future you could write social services some constructive feedback on how they could have supported you better. Who knows, it might make things a tiny bit better for someone else going through it in the future.

anxious123 Mon 16-Nov-15 21:08:20

Thanks guys.
Haff- that's already on my list funnily enough. I wish they'd stream line the letterbox system - so instead of having to email Joe.bloggers@madeup and hope that they are still working there it'd be letterbox@madeup. As for the cock ups that have been made along the legal route... I think I could write a book. I'm sure some of the things that effect birth parents will effect adoptive parents as well - I'm sure you have to deal with seemingly endless delays, a lack of communication, constantly trying to find out what on earth is going on, lack of support etc.

I get the impression they thought I was privy to all the jargon/acronyms/legal framework that they are... I'm not!

It's been a very tough, very stressful journey to get to this point... and I'm fairly sure had they pulled their fingers out this would of happened 6 months ago!

Piffyonarock Tue 17-Nov-15 15:45:44

Don't know what to say. but wishing you the best for the future, onwards and upwards flowers

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