My son is adopted. After almost two years of contact the social worker has suggested we approach the adopters with the suggestion of face to face contact once a year as per court recommendations.
I am torn on this .I would love to see my son .To cuddle him and to watch him for a while but the other side is saying this is going to be too confusing for him he's only 5 and then I'm going to be there and gone again.
So after much thought I have come to a proposal which is less damaging imo . I was thinking a public place (swimming or ball pool etc) where I could sit and watch him for a while but him not know I was there. It would mean so much to see him in the flesh .I would leave before they did or after whatever they felt comfortable with. I would have a social worker present. I just feel face to face would be too much for him.
I know it's going to be heartbreaking to see him but not be able to touch him but my heart breaks every day I'm not a part of his life. Even a glimpse would be heaven to me.
So as adopters how would you feel if this was proposed by a birth mum? Would you consider it?
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OurMiracle1106 · 08/11/2015 09:11
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