DD is 3 and a half, no known additional needs, but was exposed to a hefty dose of methadone in utero and was in hospital for several weeks being treated for withdrawal. She is generally reasonably behaved - she's definitely 'spirited' but we have firm boundaries and she responds well to these. She's now in school nursery and no issues with behaviour there.
However there are certain times when she gets fixed on something she wants to do, and nothing except physically removing her from the situation will work. It's like a switch goes in her brain and she has no control over it. Problem is we have this with car seats. As soon as she was able she was taking her arms out her straps. Nothing worked to stop her - bribes, threats, staying calm, getting angry, punishments - made no difference. We got a Houdini Stop, which was a godsend until she was able to undo it. So then we got a high backed booster with an impact shield, which has been great, until 2 days ago when she able to reach and undo the seat belt buckle....
So I guess my questions are:
- Does anyone have experience of children exposed to methadone in utero and this affecting their behaviour (struggling to find any helpful research)
- Any ideas for keeping Houdini child in car seat?!!