Not sure how much more I can take!

[MissPicklepot]

I am having a really down day today. And the legal system and social workers are driving me to dispare!!!

Story so far....

• Some time ago I was approved to adopt/
  
  
• Nearly a year ago I was linked to a little one (newborn). - Yay!!!
  
  
• I then found out it was a competitive link with 6 families involved -
  
  
• I was then short listed and had visit from LO's SW -
  
  
• I then found out FC wanted to Keep LO -
  
  
• After some time waiting, I was chosen over FC -
  
  
• FC visits, medical, Matching panel booked etc all going well -
  
  
• Just before Panel I found out BParents were appealing -
  
  
• Panel and intro planning, Approved at panel -
  
  
• Intros delayed due to appeal -
  
  
• Mess up at courts -
  
  
• More delay at courts -
  
  
• ANOTHER Error up at courts (wasted 8 weeks) -
  
  
• Another deadline passed ......
  
  We are nearly a year later now and yet another deadline passes..... looks like another month delay..as FC are going away. Really not sure how much more I can take.
  
  Emotional rollercoster is an understatement. I'm sat at working trying not to cry
  
  In the wait I have turned down many possible links and since match have stopped looking.. I now feel like I've made a mistake.
  
  I'm also worried that the emotional effect this has had on me might effect my on placement.

[researchbookworm]

Gosh MissP - this sounds so rubbish. When you first apply you think that the approval process is tricky but it's nothing compared to matching and all the bureaucracy that goes with it... I'm not as far along as you so I can't really offer much by way of experience but I'm sending lots of supportinve thoughts and a virtual hug. It sounds as though there's every reason that it can work out. Just hang in there - you are so close now, and don't stress too much about how the way that you are feeling will impact on placement. Once you have your LO home all this angst will fade into the background and I'm sure you will do brilliantly. After all, despite everything you have been picked over loads of other adoptive families so SS must believe in you. It is awfully hard emotionally though...

[Velvet1973]

Ah hugs to you, I kind of know how you feel although not quite as bad! We were linked with a baby boy in August, various delays and will if won't it happen scenarios until he was placed with us under foster to adopt in December! So only 4 months for us but a real roller coaster none the less. All I can say is stick with it, when it finally happens all this will just be a distant memory. Not much help at the mo but all I can do is offer moral support and tell you there is light at the end of the tunnel!

[MissPicklepot]

Thanks for the kind words. Just a
Bad day really and had a bit of run in with SW.

[Italiangreyhound]

Hang on in there, I think you need to see this to the end, you are so close. Can you do some you stuff, meal with friends back massage, spa day etc. I am sure it will all come together. Please do come back and tell us when it does.

[CloserToFiftyThanTwenty]

Good grief - this stuff makes me so cross. I know there is a good reason for some of the delay, and I absolutely support the role of the court in exploring all angles before placement etc but... This child has effectively lost a year of permanence in their life

Sorry, that's not exactly helpful to you! Hang in there