Hi All – I'm a regular MNer but have NCd in case I out myself. Apologies for vagueness but I'm sure you understand!
My friend and her husband have been going through the adoption process, and 6 weeks ago were matched with a child. Both SWs were pleased with the match. Friend and her husband met the child at an activity day and got on really well. Matching Panel is scheduled for next week and they’ve been having introductions / preparing the room and so on.
Yesterday Friend and her husband got a call from the SW to say that the child’s FC has objected to the match. They are still going to panel but SW has said that they shouldn’t get their hopes up. They are absolutely distraught and after a quick text to close friends family members to let them know, they’ve said they don’t want to talk to anybody and have now “gone to ground”. No word at all.
I was wondering if you guys could offer me some advice. How best can DH and I support them? They have already had "oh well, there'll be another one soon" sorts of comments, which I can’t help feeling is like telling somebody who's had a miscarriage they can always have another – or am I being oversensitive? I just can’t stop thinking about them in their lovely home with the child’s bedroom all ready and no child. . I suspect I’m being a but over sensitive to it all as the child they were matched with was the same age / gender as my DC. Daft really.
Anybody any experience of a FC objecting to a match and it going ahead anyway, or the FC / family sorting out the problem? Is it common for the FC to object at such a late stage, when they've already had loads of meetings and all seemed well?
Thanks all.
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Friend's Match Fallen Through – Help Please
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NessaroseThropp · 29/04/2015 07:39
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