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Just when I thought things were getting easier...

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dimples76 Wed 18-Feb-15 13:32:11

Apart from sleep things are generally going well (9 weeks into placement) and yesterday when the HV came out she was impressed by how much he has come on (he has global development delay) and how much are bond between us has developed. I felt so pleased and she said everyone is going to be amazed tomorrow (i.e. today) at the Care Team Meeting.

However, the care team meeting did not go ahead as this morning I got a bit carried away in encouraging him to walk and he had a nasty fall banging his forehead and nose. I called 111 and they arranged an appointment at an urgent care centre then I called the SWs and HV and left messages for them cancelling the meeting (as it clashed with hospital appointment). I then called my Mum who very kindly came around took one look at my little darling and said I was making a fuss about nothing and should not have called off the meeting. The doctor was really lovely and said he's absolutely fine so we're back home.

I am however a complete wreck. He is having his nap now and I'm really struggling not to go in and check him every two secs. I am also totally paranoid about what the SWs think - I know rationally loads of toddlers have these bumps and scrapes but I just wish I could turn back the clock. Having been up on and off with my LO since 3am is not really helping. I'm going to make myself a cup of tea and try to re-find my equilibrium before he wakes up.

Whatutalkinboutwillis Wed 18-Feb-15 14:00:56

Oh dimples take a deep breath and have a cup of tea. These things happen and will again, it's just bad timing. Your boy is fine and that's all that matters.

I remember my ds 1st week home he trapped his finger in a door and lost his nail. Going back further my 6 year old ds had a black eye 1st time he met social workers (ran into his pals head). Such is life, accidents happen and what goes to show what a great mum you are is that you put him first and got him checked out when you could easily have just gone to the meeting and kept quiet. You are doing great!!smile

dreamcometrue Wed 18-Feb-15 14:35:32

The day before our first lac meeting lo fell of the end of a slide and cracked his head open. I thought they'd take him off me there and then!
You're doing a great job. Please don't worry.

LastingLight Wed 18-Feb-15 16:44:23

Take a deep breath. A paediatrician once told me he worries about toddlers who don't have bumps and scrapes as they cannot do the work of developing without having accidents. I'm sure the SW and HV didn't mind.

WereJamming Wed 18-Feb-15 16:53:20

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Italiangreyhound Wed 18-Feb-15 18:04:28

dimples try not to worry.

DD (birth child) had a nasty head bump at a wedding when aged 18 months and we left the wedding and went to accident and emergency. Missing our meal! I would not now as know it is not too serious but at the time it seemed massive! (egg head etc).

Ds (adopted) went to the county picnic with a cut knee and had two further mishaps while at the the picnic, one being a head bump.

Try and keep it in perspective, it will be OK.

dimples76 Wed 18-Feb-15 19:15:44

Thanks for all your kind words. We had a lovely play this afternoon and his sw called to discuss putting the court papers in so I am much calmer.

Before I became a Mum I used to think that my friends and family panicked and rushed off to the doctors/hospital with their children the slightest thing - now I get it!

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