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OurMiracle1106 Fri 12-Dec-14 11:03:56

I don't know if any of you will remember me but my birth son was placed for adoption in April 2013 and was adopted legally in May this year.

I haven't been on for a while I have been concentrating on myself and the counselling I needed and still continue to access. But I wanted to update people.

I am now healthier than I was. I have recently applied for a voluntary role at the charity that housed me and I have an appointment at a local college next week to start an accountancy course next year. These are small steps but they are positive. After losing all that was important to me and being broken down into pieces I am now starting to put my life back together. I know its still a long road ahead but I wanted adoptive parents to know, that not all birth parents feel unable to carry on there was a time I felt that way but I'm stronger than I was back then and I am now in the process of doing things that make me happy and hopefully will make my son proud of me in years to come.

It goes without saying that a huge part of my life is missing without him and my mum but I am keeping up with the contact letters and doing all I can to enable him to be reunited with me at some point in the future if this is what he chooses. If not as difficult as it is I have to live my life. I have a future. I'm still alive. I've been through more than most people go through in a lifetime but I'm a survivor and I one day want to be able to look my son in the eyes and say all I did I did for you. I am who I am because of you. You are the reason I am. You have always been my reason. Til that day or the day I die I will continue to take my baby steps to a life I can be proud of and one that will make me happy.

wonderpants Fri 12-Dec-14 11:41:26

Miracle, I have so much admiration and respect for you!
I wish you a peaceful Christmas and the very best for the new year!

Lilka Fri 12-Dec-14 13:23:55

I've been thinking about you and wondering how you've been doing, I'm so pleased to hear from you smile That's great news about college and possible voluntary role, congratulations! I also have so much respect for your strength and determination, and I really hope you succeed in everything you put your mind too. You 110% deserve to be healthy, doing things that make you happy and able to say how proud of what you have achieved, because it's far more than many people would be able too.

I hope you have a restful christmas and the very best of luck with your applications x

AdventuringAbout Fri 12-Dec-14 20:11:51

Hello Miracle - I've had a few namechanges over the years, but haven't changed my respect and admiration for you. Thank you for updating on how you're doing. It is so good to read that you are finding ways to be happy, and I think you should already be incredibly proud of yourself and the life you are building.

CloserThanYesterday Fri 12-Dec-14 21:16:54

I lurk more than I post Miracle, but I often think of you. I can't imagine how hard it has been, and still is for you to rebuild your life, but so many of us are rooting for you here.

callamia Fri 12-Dec-14 21:24:40

I do remember you, and I see you sometimes being a rational voice of experience. I think you have so much potential to be a force for good - i think we talked once about post-adoption support for birth families. Your life certainly seems like you're back in charge and pushing forward. Good for you, and I wish you happiness and success.

Italiangreyhound Sat 13-Dec-14 02:24:57

Miracle great news, every blessing to you for Christmas and I wish you well as things continue for you in a (hopefully) really positive way.

OurMiracle1106 Sun 14-Dec-14 14:26:18

I can honestly say without having accessed adoption counselling. The counsellor pushing for more and me pushing to access long term counselling after adoption counselling I wouldn't be in the position I am today.

I have a lot of people to thank for getting me to where I am today. But most of all it has to come from yourself. A counsellor can't help if you can't engage.

MerryInthechelseahotel Sun 14-Dec-14 14:38:05

I'm another one with so much respect for you. Good to hear from you again. So pleased you are doing well. I hope Christmas is happy for you xx

Kewcumber Sun 14-Dec-14 19:42:31

So glad the hear from you. I too have been wondering how you were getting on. Hope your Christmas is a positive as possible.

Jameme Sun 14-Dec-14 19:56:36

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OurMiracle1106 Tue 16-Dec-14 12:46:32

Thank you all for your support. I received this morning a phone call from the charity and they want to invite me to a interview on January 12th.

I have college this afternoon so all is goingwell

callamia Tue 16-Dec-14 17:13:47

Congratulations. This is great news.

MoJangled Tue 16-Dec-14 19:56:41

I'm another mostly lurker but I've followed your story and was so glad to see your update. Congratulations on the interview - that's an accomplishment in itself. Best wishes for Christmas and a strong and successful 2015.

Daisiemoo Tue 16-Dec-14 20:53:51

Hi Miracle, just want to say well done! Your post has made me cry, I am so pleased for you and really wish you all the best. You should be absolutely proud of what you have achieved so far and its heartwarming to know that you are rebuilding your life. Merry Christmas xx sending you a big hug xx

excitedmtb Tue 23-Dec-14 10:18:43

Well done Miracle. Have seen a few of your posts on here and lovely to hear that you are doing well.
I hope our LO's BM will do half as well as you have so that she too can be proud if and when the time comes.

Best wishes flowers

OurMiracle1106 Fri 26-Dec-14 14:57:43

Thank you for all your support. Christmas was really nice. Though today I have woken looking how I Feel (dying)

I hope everyone else had a lovely Christmas

FamiliesShareGerms Fri 26-Dec-14 18:04:36

Thanks for the update, and really glad to hear things are going well for you flowers

OurMiracle1106 Mon 12-Jan-15 19:59:51

I went for my job interview today. And got a phone call just before 5 today to say I've got it. It's only voluntary and part time but it's my next step. Feeling quite proud of myself.

I wanted to thank everyone on this forum for their understanding, not being judgemental and for supporting me through the worst days of my life to where I am now. I couldn't have done it without youflowers

RhinosAreFatUnicorns Mon 12-Jan-15 20:02:52

Congratulations OurMiracle flowers. That's brilliant news smile

MagpieCursedTea Mon 12-Jan-15 20:05:32

Miracle! I've named changed since I last remember you being on here and I've just seen this thread! So glad to hear things are going well, massive congratulations on the job thanks

Lilka Mon 12-Jan-15 20:25:31

Congratulations!!! Fantastic news, I'm so happy for you smile thanks You bloody well should feel proud of yourself!!

GirlsWhoWearGlasses Tue 13-Jan-15 06:41:20

That's great news. Well done!

KristinaM Tue 13-Jan-15 06:54:10

Well done! When do you start ? Please let us know how it goes

OurMiracle1106 Tue 13-Jan-15 09:05:30

I start beginning of February so a couple of weeks away to get myself sorted and clothes bought. I'm actually really looking forward to it.

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