Ok need some sensible guidance and this is the place . The paperwork for matching panel for our children that we signed stated indirect letter contact xxxx times a year no photos. After matching panel and at the intro's planning meeting the chair raised photos and seemed keen to make photo's be included with letters. The childrens sw was asked to to a risk assessment and advised at the intro's review meeting there were some concerns and if photos were to be sent they should only be viewed at the office and supervised. We were not accompanied to the intro's review meeting by our sw who was on leave and were not asked our view. It then seems the chair seems to think that its agreed for photos to be sent to be viewed by birth family but not to take away although she said in her view this is cruel and perhaps worse than no photos. Moving on it seem's that an assumption has been made we will provide photos and at the time of the meeting and intro's review meeting this was the last thing we were thinking of. Now we have had the time and opportunity to discuss we both agree that we do not feel comfortable sending photos and have pointed this out to the children's sw pointing out that we signed up to no photo's for the matching panel paperwork.
We will shortly be submitting the AO and wanted to be clear on our feelings. The childrens sw has come back saying they feel we should reconsider for the benefit of the BP's. It will also likely be raised at the next IRO review. I'm wondering what peoples experiences have been? We have various concerns including how supervised the bp's viewing the photos would be. It only takes moments to use a phone to take a photo of a photo if the opportunity presents. Say someone interrupting for example.
Our general feelings are that if we say no photos but if contact goes well and the bp's seem to accept the situation then it leaves us room to decide to include photos at a later stage if we feel its appropriate even if they are not current ones. But if we agree to the sw's request now we can not later come back from that if issues arise.
Really just getting this off my chest and looking to how how the sending photos etc has worked for others and what you would do thanks.
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Tell me again why we should include photos with indirect contact for the BP's to view?
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Bringonthesunshineplease · 21/11/2014 16:34
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