Hello, I am totally new to these boards - still spending most of my mn time over on conception but would tentatively like to test the adoption waters as it were.
Dh and I have been ttc for 6 years. We are fairly sure ivf is not for us. Having been told I was probably infertile 12 years ago I always assumed that adoption would be on the cards at some point.
We contacted our la last winter and had an initial phone conversation and were sent the forms to fill in. We also attended a fostering open day to explore that option. Armed with relevant info we decided to take our time and give my body one last chance.
Unfortunately it seems to no avail as I am not pregnant and my burning desire for children seems to have well and truly taken over my life!
We are having a final round of fertility tests this month so that we have it clear in our heads exactly where we are with our fertility. Then it is decision time.
My heart tells me that adoption is for me, although I am a complete newbie to the process and the system. Even if we were candidates for ivf I have a morbid fear of miscarriage which almost rules it out.
Could anyone please advise on timescales between ttc and making an adoption application. I read that if you have had fertility treatment you are obliged to wait a year before you can be assessed? Or does this depend on the la or agency? Or type of treatment?
I will be in receipt of our fertility results by the end of this year and feel a need to have a plan of action in place, so that we can get the ball rolling asap.
I'm hoping there are ladies that might have been through similar that can offer their advice? I am reluctant to contact our la again at this stage as I'm aware how precious their time is and want to be making that call to say - here we are, ready to go. Rather than talking almost hypotheticals.
Many thanks in advance.
Here are some suggested organisations that offer expert advice on adoption.
Adoption
a little advice for a newbie
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