DH and I are in stage 2 - halfway through home visits - and I told family yesterday for the first time.
The reactions were all positive, supportive and lovely but my sister made a comment which really rubbed me the wrong way but they cannot see why at all. Now I'm starting to wonder if I'm being oversensitive, so what do you think?
(background) I'm a really keen cook and love to buy nice ingredients and make things from scratch. I have no bc.
My DSis has 3 BC. She hates cooking and will opt for ready prepared food every time.
When I told them my news, she 'quipped' that it's ironic that I haven't been able to carefully choose my ingredients and watch everything cook and be very careful to only add the best of everything and care for and nurture this, but rather will be getting a 'ready meal' and taking my chances and crossing my fingers that it's nice!
She genuinely didn't mean to be hurtful and when she saw my face she was eager to assure me that she loves ready meals(!), rarely has a 'bad' one and that she meant that something great can come out of unknown ingredients which have been prepared by a less-skilled and careful chef.
I really don't know whether to let it slide as a well-meant if slightly ill-judged comparison or to be militant from the get-go about what is appropriate/ hurtful/ helpful to say when discussing adoption?
My sister is lovely, and very supportive, but adoption as a concept is completely new to them all so I expect a few clangers along the way
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Sister's 'ready meal' analogy
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ThisName · 20/06/2014 21:53
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