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nervouslurker Sun 18-May-14 22:17:17

So, home visit this week- I'm right at the start. I've seen people joking on here about biscuits etc. So, a) chocolate hob nobs? Everyone loves those, right? Or should it be home made victoria sponge? And b) how clean does the house need to be? I'm assuming the fact that the homework table will have homework piled on it, etc is okay? Will the SW want a tour of the house at this stage? I use a floordrobe, do I need to madly sort this?

Sorry if this is annoying, and you have hundreds of threads on this- could you point me in their direction? Thanks.

lovehopejoy Fri 23-May-14 13:45:20

Well done nervous lurker...initial visit done! Apart from the tea and biscuits issue how did it go? We're officially 1 month into the 6 month process as of today! We too are Christians and I don't think we 'hid' anything...there are a few bibles / verses around but nothing 'in your face' so to speak. Hope all goes well. Exciting and scary all once!

Maryz Thu 22-May-14 23:02:50

Our social worker never made it upstairs until after ds arrived.

Did you like her (or at least not dislike her)? That's usually a good start.

64x32x24 Thu 22-May-14 21:36:30

It's like a rite of passage, the cleaning and panicking before that first visit smile Well done for coming through the other end!

nervouslurker Thu 22-May-14 20:41:42

Not a biscuit. And the tea was only half drunk... She was very thin, I am not (normal BMI, but not thin). I would eat all the biscuits if I did her job! wink

But... it has begun!

FamiliesShareGerms Thu 22-May-14 20:12:09

Didn't you feel like forcing her to look at the lovely clean kitchen?!

How did it go otherwise? Any biscuits consumed?

nervouslurker Thu 22-May-14 18:11:46

She sat in the sitting room the whole fecking time. Didn't even see the kitchen!

Kewcumber Tue 20-May-14 21:16:40

And avoid references to exorcising the demons out of the child and you'll probably be fine...

nervouslurker Tue 20-May-14 21:09:10

The floordrobe is no more. I am definitely just aiming for it not to be 'Have you been burgled?!'

I bought special soap (ours is fine, but it's solid, and got that used, cracked look) for the bathroom.

I'm not even conservative enough to be a member of Accepting Evangelicals, Italian!

I will place the fruit bowl somewhere prominent! And bake a cake. You were all right, I feel much better knowing that everything's fine.

KneesoftheBee Tue 20-May-14 20:50:56

Italian your link made me smile. I used to administer adoption panels and had to keep panel members happy with the biscuits (jaffa cakes always went down well <taps nose>).

One day I decided to treat them to those Choco-Liebnez biscuits. Unfortunately, it was a warm day and the chocolate melts very quickly. It got quite messy grin

Maryz Tue 20-May-14 20:41:57

That's a bit posh, Italian shock Forrin and dark chocolate, most superior.

It must be the reason they gave you such a special, wonderful, gorgeous child grin - they keep the nice ones for the people with special biscuits.

Italiangreyhound Tue 20-May-14 20:38:43

My lapel badge saying Jesys is the key was tiny. Somewhat like this my lapel badge and very small tiny

So social worker would almost have had to be sitting on my lap to have been 'offended' by it!

Italiangreyhound Tue 20-May-14 20:34:37

PS after I was told to lose weight I stopped bringing out he biscuits and started brandishing the fruit bowl!

Italiangreyhound Tue 20-May-14 20:33:36

I am 'religious', well a Christian nervouslurker. We had a picture frame and a wall hanging with a Bible verse on each, nothing too scary! Plus a gorgeous picture of Jesus washing the disciples feet.

On the first day I wore a pink shirt and realised I had a 'Jesus is the key' broach on the lapel!! ha ha, they still let me in.

We do have Bibles on the bookshelf but also a lot of cook books and I am no great cook so I don't think anything in our house was very 'worrying'! I am also very keen on equal marriage and had my place as a member of Accepting Evangelicals in case that question popped up!

Good luck, nervouslurker, when is it.

Italiangreyhound Tue 20-May-14 20:29:11

Oopse, that went wrong! I meant this

Italiangreyhound Tue 20-May-14 20:28:32

SORRY BUT - you are all wrong [[ is what you must eat]]

Nonnimouse Tue 20-May-14 19:03:20

Oh this thread is just priceless!
Yes I have always found the "going crazy cleaning" posts made me nervous, with 4 children in the house it is NOT going to be tidy. (At least not MY house!) We go crazy a couple of days before sw visits and aim for "lived in" rather than "omg have you been burgled?!" It has been ok so far.
Yeah and in one visit my dog was so happy to see the sw it did an excited little pee, and another visit my toddler tried to run after us, tripped and got her first ever bloody nose. Good times.

Maryz Mon 19-May-14 22:58:50

Oh God yes shock

How could I forget.

ds1 showed them our recycling box when we were being assessed for dd. He showed them by pulling it out from where we had hidden it in a cupboard - an entire box of empty wine bottles blush.

Luckily she laughed.

MyFeetAreCold Mon 19-May-14 22:56:39

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Maryz Mon 19-May-14 22:22:31

weapons or porn? Do they really have to ask?

I mean, what's the answer to that "yes, we usually have a loaded shotgun in the umbrella rack, but we put it away today in case it upset you".


prumarth Mon 19-May-14 22:11:36

On our first visit, we were asked if we kept porn or weapons on open display (we don't!). My jaw dropped. The next question was did we have a lock on the fridge and the distance between our banister railings. We were very confused about what might come up on visit 2!
I agree on dark chocolate digestives - she doesn't eat them but we fall on them when she leaves and scoff the lot as a release from all the anxiety. Then we put the hand grenades back on the fireplace grin

HappySunflower Mon 19-May-14 21:19:43

I have a strong faith. I don't think that's very obvious from coming to our home, but I do have quite a few books on the bookshelves and a few pictures with scripture on them dotted around. I didn't hide any of it, and was happy to talk about it when asked, which was a very good thing as my sw was very interested in how my faith might influence or shape the way I parented.

Maryz Mon 19-May-14 21:17:36

I suspect we had a bible or two.

I think bleeding heart statues or shrines on your tv might be a step too far though.

Relax, she's just getting a first look at you; there will be many more meetings to come for you to stress over

FamiliesShareGerms Mon 19-May-14 21:10:08

Our SW did eat the home baking (and asked for the recipes) <preen>. But never drank a drop...

I like the Aged Aunt rule of thumb

I think the sex convo might come a few visits in smile

nervouslurker Mon 19-May-14 21:09:50

Are any of you religious? Did you leave any evidence of this around the house? Looking about, I'm surprised how much evidence there is! I was presuming I need to play down my faith? (I'm the sort who supports equal marriage etc. I'm a single mum, FFS, I'm obviously not a fundamentalist!)

I'll stop panicking soon.

Kewcumber Mon 19-May-14 20:26:11

Oh god no not the sex convo!

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