My Mum

[morethanpotatoprints]

I never got to say goodbye, you were taken so quickly.
I never got to say how much I appreciated everything you did for me.
A mum is the person who nurses you through chicken pox, measles and the most horrendous cases of asthma.
You burnt oil and sat with me many nights and when I was scared you held me and everything seemed better.
In those days a skinny baby wasn't healthy and the sw sent me to you with lots of info on how to fatten me up
I remember the cod liver oil and malt like it was yesterday, and of course the pink glupy stuff called pennidural? for asthma.
You told me how you and Dad had to go to court 3 times for each of us 3 girls. That must have taken some courage and dedication.
You also told me the waiting time was the worst, the bit when the bm could change her mind. I can't imagine how that must feel and how you managed to get through it all.
With all the time off school and the fact I now know my genetics learning was hard for me, I am dyslexic but everyone called me retarded.
You helped me believe in myself, identified my talents and between you and Dad encouraged me to be the person I am today.
When I was bullied for being adopted you told me to tell the bullies that their parents had to have them but out of thousands of babies I was chosen, making me special.
I could go on forever, but my main point is I love you and miss you so much. You were the best mum and the best parents anybody could wish for.

I am sure this speaks for many other adopted people too.
Happy Mothers Day to all you lovely adoptive Mums. x

[Italiangreyhound]

Potatoprints that is so beautiful.

[Chooster]

She sounds like a wonderful mum.... X

[excitedmamma]

potatoprints... I'm so sorry you've lost your mum..

Your post was lovely and moving - I hope from the bottom of my heart my daughter grows to feel the same and I can be as brave and loving as your mum was to you

Wishing you all the best in your life... you must have made her very proud

[morethanpotatoprints]

Thank you all so much, yes she was lovely. They both were but as its Mothers day
I look at how some people of my age were affected by the system and am so thankful for the up bringing I had.
I don't mean failed adoptions as they were pretty much none existent during these times, just how it all worked.
I had 2 friends brother and sister who were long term fostered, bm wouldn't sign for adoption I don't think. The parents moved as the fathers job moved. The dc not only had to leave their mum and dad but were separated. I broke my heart at the injustice.
Another 2 friends adopted sisters from birth (both different bm)
parents died, eldest was 16 and was just left to cope and youngest 14 taken into care.
I was so lucky not only to miss a horrible thing like this but to have the best.
I feel privileged to have had my parents.

I'm sure all your dc will feel the same. I know its not the same now and these poor kids go through so much.
I take my hat off to all of you who are jumping through hoops to offer a child love, stability and the best new start to their lives.

[OneOfOurLilkasIsMissing]

I'm sorry for your loss. Your mum sounds wonderful

Thanks for sharing xx

[Happiestinwellybobs]

Lovely post . Sorry your mum is no longer with you x