Morning all,
Quite a random post, nothing I'm concerned about its just something I've noticed the last few days.
DS & I have has quite a few little chats recently about BM/FM etc. he hasn't spoke about FC in some time, so when he did I used it as an opportunity to see if all was ok. He stated that he had been thinking about her but they were "secrets"
I just explained along the lines of "if you have soooo many secrets do you know what may happen? DS glued for an answer. "You may pop" then I acted with him as if I was putting coins in him like a jar as if they were his secrets, then drew this on a picture his tummy getting more & more full of secrets!
I then added to this saying do you know what really helps you to not get "too full"? & drew me next to him, him handing me the coin "secret" & me putting it safe in my heart.
I have no idea where this came from but he has opened up to me a lot more since :-)
Anyway back to my original post! Each time we chat & he opens up he refers back to some sort of material item, albeit, belts, lamps, toys & more toys. He even said that Santa had left toys at tummy mummy's too, but he wouldn't get those presents. Other times he might say I don't have this, that or the other now. He has everything he came with, he is very attached to his "stuff", but he seems to just always wish it was more / feels hard done by some how.
Now me reading between the lines I'm coming up with its not those items it's what they represent he misses, so he could be saying he doesn't understand why he can't live there / & here perhaps?? He's quite the little hoarder.
Anyway like I said I'm not overly concerned, using tools like "the feelings book" who someone kindly recommended he is ever so very slightly opening up more about his emotions.
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Buster51 · 14/03/2014 07:17
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