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Talking to DD - hope I'm pitching this right

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Happiestinwellybobs Fri 07-Mar-14 17:28:26

DD is almost 3. We talk to her about adoption when it seems the right moment, although it often feels a bit "clunky". We have some age appropriate books that we read occasionally as part of our bedtime routine.

As her nursery worker is pregnant, it seemed the right time to broach babies in tummies, and I talked about her not coming out of mummy's tummy.

Today she has asked for a little sister (!) so we talked again about babies in tummies. She then asked to look at the photos where DH is feeding her yoghurt as a baby - this was during intros week (2 years ago). We also got out the photo album that her FC made her and talked through all the photos and she asked about who her FC were, which I explained again. We do meet up with them about twice a year. She was really happy at looking through all the pictures, and wanted me to go through them all a couple of times.

Does this all sound okay, too much or not enough? She is a bright little girl, but I don't want to overload her. I know she has been with us two years, but I feel like such a beginner to all this sometimes smile

CarCiKoTab Fri 07-Mar-14 17:54:18

To me that sounds fine, I think it's just about keeping them aware of your situation (been adoptive parents) if that's what you want whilst they are growing up so they don't have that big shock that one day when you decide to tell them, I think you are doing the right thing and a wonderful thing too!

It sounds to me you have been doing fine so far, have confidence in your own instinct smile

LastingLight Fri 07-Mar-14 18:39:32

You're doing well. She will deal with all of this again and again, every time she reaches a new level of development and understanding. My dd (11) went through a phase last year where she talked about her birth father a lot. At one stage I realised that she doesn't quite grasp some of the facts, things that I thought she might have figured out herself, so we went over the history again.

Happiestinwellybobs Sat 08-Mar-14 07:08:08

Thank you both. I never her want the 'big shock' so do want to tell her everything, but I just want to judge what's appropriate and when. We haven't mentioned her half-siblings as I don't think she is old enough to grasp the fact that they don't live with us.

I'll just keep doing why I'm doing when the moment feels right smile

Happiestinwellybobs Sat 08-Mar-14 07:08:37

*what - not why smile

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