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Filling our day in a bonding way!

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Italiangreyhound Wed 05-Mar-14 17:27:54

I think if I have some idea of structure it will help me!

Please give me some ideas for filling my day in a good way with new little one, who is preschooler.

Please???

I mean it won't be like a rota, it will be a list and I will make a note on it of what we do and when so I can see if we have too much of one thing and not enough of another! This is things just for me to do initially with little one, later dh and dd can get in on the act too!

So far I have got.....

In alphabetical order

cars (play)
make a garden trail with clues (together for big sis who is at school)
painting or craft time (together, making a card or something for daddy who is at work and for big sis who is at school)
puppet play
sitting on the sofa watching Peppa and the like
small play (figures/teddies/animals etc etc)
story time (me reading)
swimming - good for skin to skin - once a week if there is a toddler swim or mats and balls etc
train set (play)
trampoline time (him not me!)
visit local library to borrow books
visit local park
visit local pond to see ducks
walking to local cafe for a drink and a cake
walking to local shops for one or two items from shops

What do I need to include aside from breakfast/lunch/dinner/snaks and drinks, baths and sleep?

Italiangreyhound Wed 05-Mar-14 17:31:33

Thanks so much.

Middleagedmotheroftwo Wed 05-Mar-14 17:35:43

I think what you've listed is fine, and varied. I'd probably add attending toddler groups, swimming etc.

MrsBW Wed 05-Mar-14 18:13:28

Have you heard of Theraplay ?

First link that I found on Google but bound to be lots moreover you search Some good ideas there, which may be useful to you?

namechangesforthehardstuff Wed 05-Mar-14 18:35:38

Watch Me Maker then make the making thingies. You'll need a big craft box - supermarket for basics and hobby craft for modelling clay etc. start saving boxes toilet rolls etc.

Buy a comic and do all the activites once a week. A good comic lasts ages - BBC friends one etc.

Can I recommend Let's imagine books for actually sitting discussing a picture in depth - very bonding. Not sure if AC is verbal yet?

Will think of some other bits. Dressing up box?

Mercythompson Wed 05-Mar-14 19:13:47

Cooking. Specially if they can mix with fingers, or lick spoons. It can be as easy as buying pre-rolled pastry and jam and making jam tarts.

Buster51 Wed 05-Mar-14 19:18:12

How old is little one? Ours is 4, he loves hide & seek, & hands on play like catch & tickles.

Also just picking his toys out & me joining in with his play, I.e. moshi monsters! His little characters, we acted out a whole school day (in fact I learnt more through that about his school day than asking him), his woody, buzz, etc, just involved as & when he likes to play (within reason of course!)

Re swimming, I found this was quite difficult for DS the 1st time, he was very anxious of the water in general, & lacked the comfort & support from me (the 1st time we went) so spent the hour hanging onto the side of the pool! Although he did still enjoy it, & has improved since.

You sound like you have a fantastic list! You're sure to find lots there that he enjoys doing :-)

Buster51 Wed 05-Mar-14 19:22:28

Oh yes like Mercy has said, cooking, DS loves this. He also likes to help around the house! Play dough, playing with water, filling balloons etc, our lo loves this.

I think I'm all out of ideas, I hope this helps smile

Italiangreyhound Wed 05-Mar-14 19:29:33

Names, MrsBW, * Middleagedmotheroftwo*, Mercythompson, Buster wow, such great ideas. Thank you.

Theraplay looks fabulous. I had forgotten cooking.

Am feeling guilty, did not do all this with DD!

He will be 4 soon.

Please keep them coming.

Mercythompson Wed 05-Mar-14 19:33:08

A micro scooter for him when you are out walking. They are great fun and makes them enjoy walks so much more.

Italiangreyhound Wed 05-Mar-14 19:39:21

Thanks Mercy great idea. (Great name, Mercy is lovely.)

Mercythompson Wed 05-Mar-14 19:40:02

Ds2, just turned 4 loves helping me put the laundry away. It's something to do with being given little bits of responsibility. I.e putting the towel in the bathroom.

Mercythompson Wed 05-Mar-14 19:41:00

Thanks italiangreyhound I wish you the best of luck with it all.

Mercythompson Wed 05-Mar-14 19:45:47

Re the cooking, it doesn't have to be complicated. You can buy value cupcakes and just ice them, or decorate digestive biscuits. Easy and fun (and no delayed gratification waiting for things to cook).

ClaraFox Wed 05-Mar-14 19:46:21

lego. they all love lego! you just need plenty

make your own play dough. loads of recipes online and you can add food colouring and glitter. keeps for a good few weeks.

nature walks. make a list of a few things and go and find them in the park

BeerHunter Wed 05-Mar-14 19:54:28

Have you looked on your local Sure Start website?

Mine does lots of fun activities, like sensory play, singing and dancing. I think most things are free.

namechangesforthehardstuff Wed 05-Mar-14 20:00:19

Sand and water for summer. Pool and sand pit if you have the space or one of those plastic tables if not. And decide to not give a shit about sand in water/water in sand early on and you'll both get on better wink

Buster51 Wed 05-Mar-14 20:00:40

We had a great day out at our local animal/bird park. I bought DS a disposable camera for him to use for the day, he took lots of pictures of the birds, rivers etc, we then made it into a story / journal later that day once they were printed out smile we took a picnic which he helped to make. It was very simple but he thoroughly enjoyed it.

He still loves to get our story out now for me to read to him as it was written as a little story book :-)

Goldmandra Wed 05-Mar-14 20:05:23

Den building.

Picnic in the den.

Learning to skip together.

Making home made playdough then playing with it.

Water painting in fences, walls and patio.

Chalking on patio.

Junk modelling with cardboard boxes and loads of masking tape (pound shop).

Making and cutting out hand and foot prints in with paint (lovely to keep as a memento).

Make sensory bottles.

Growing cress seeds.

Planting up some pots to flower in the summer.

Batting a balloon to each other.

Taking pictures of the child's eye view of the house, garden, a walk or trip out, favourite things, printing them and sticking them in a scrap book or big piece of paper.

Angelwings11 Wed 05-Mar-14 20:16:16

Visit the 'nuture store' and 'imagination tree' that will even email you a weeks plan of activities. My preschooler loves them! I tend to build them into what you have listed already. Also, swimming is very good to aide in bonding- lots of skin on skin contact. Definately do the theraplay activities they are fun and do help. Someone once told me the following (based upon Bryan post - adoption specialist) that try to do intensive play with your LO 10/20/10 (meaning 10 mins in the morning,20 mins in the afternoon and 10 minutes in the evening) letting them choose the activity.

Italiangreyhound Wed 05-Mar-14 21:14:23

Wow I love...

Water painting in fences, walls and patio.

Making and cutting out hand and foot prints in with paint (lovely to keep as a memento).

Make sensory bottles. Tell me more!

Batting a balloon to each other - sounds do-able!

Best of all Taking pictures of the child's eye view of the house, garden, a walk or trip out, favourite things, printing them and sticking them in a scrap book or big piece of paper.

We are already starting a scrapbook for before he comes and will continue to add to it once he is here.

So many great ideas.

I used to write articles about this kind of stuff, maybe one day I will again and will keep all these good ideas. Hope that is OK.

You guys have got me excited. Who needs toddler groups when you have got all this!!

THANK YOU wink smile grin

Paintyfingers Wed 05-Mar-14 21:31:50

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Italiangreyhound Wed 05-Mar-14 22:02:34

Painty fab, thank you.

Goldmandra Wed 05-Mar-14 22:58:49

Make sensory bottles. Tell me more!

Did you look at the link? You can get lots of ideas from Googling them too.

The best loved ones here are one that is food colouring and baby oil, a sand one with lots of small objects inside and they turn the bottle to move the sand and find them and one big one with just water and glitter that falls slowly and is really calming to watch.

I love the big ones that you can use as a calming down activity which is a really positive and constructive alternative to time out.

roadwalker Wed 05-Mar-14 23:12:55

Lots of great ideas here
Don't forget to slow down too and try gentle activities especially those that promote eye contact
Singing games, peekaboo (think younger as most of our children are very emotionally young), make holes in boxes or card plates and peek through
As much touch as is acceptable to child
Have fun with food and feed each other
Bubbles

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