I think if I have some idea of structure it will help me!
Please give me some ideas for filling my day in a good way with new little one, who is preschooler.
I mean it won't be like a rota, it will be a list and I will make a note on it of what we do and when so I can see if we have too much of one thing and not enough of another! This is things just for me to do initially with little one, later dh and dd can get in on the act too!
So far I have got.....
In alphabetical order
cars (play) make a garden trail with clues (together for big sis who is at school) painting or craft time (together, making a card or something for daddy who is at work and for big sis who is at school) puppet play sitting on the sofa watching Peppa and the like small play (figures/teddies/animals etc etc) story time (me reading) swimming - good for skin to skin - once a week if there is a toddler swim or mats and balls etc train set (play) trampoline time (him not me!) visit local library to borrow books visit local park visit local pond to see ducks walking to local cafe for a drink and a cake walking to local shops for one or two items from shops
What do I need to include aside from breakfast/lunch/dinner/snaks and drinks, baths and sleep?
How old is little one? Ours is 4, he loves hide & seek, & hands on play like catch & tickles.
Also just picking his toys out & me joining in with his play, I.e. moshi monsters! His little characters, we acted out a whole school day (in fact I learnt more through that about his school day than asking him), his woody, buzz, etc, just involved as & when he likes to play (within reason of course!)
Re swimming, I found this was quite difficult for DS the 1st time, he was very anxious of the water in general, & lacked the comfort & support from me (the 1st time we went) so spent the hour hanging onto the side of the pool! Although he did still enjoy it, & has improved since.
You sound like you have a fantastic list! You're sure to find lots there that he enjoys doing :-)
Sand and water for summer. Pool and sand pit if you have the space or one of those plastic tables if not. And decide to not give a shit about sand in water/water in sand early on and you'll both get on better
We had a great day out at our local animal/bird park. I bought DS a disposable camera for him to use for the day, he took lots of pictures of the birds, rivers etc, we then made it into a story / journal later that day once they were printed out we took a picnic which he helped to make. It was very simple but he thoroughly enjoyed it.
He still loves to get our story out now for me to read to him as it was written as a little story book :-)
Visit the 'nuture store' and 'imagination tree' that will even email you a weeks plan of activities. My preschooler loves them! I tend to build them into what you have listed already. Also, swimming is very good to aide in bonding- lots of skin on skin contact. Definately do the theraplay activities they are fun and do help. Someone once told me the following (based upon Bryan post - adoption specialist) that try to do intensive play with your LO 10/20/10 (meaning 10 mins in the morning,20 mins in the afternoon and 10 minutes in the evening) letting them choose the activity.
Did you look at the link? You can get lots of ideas from Googling them too.
The best loved ones here are one that is food colouring and baby oil, a sand one with lots of small objects inside and they turn the bottle to move the sand and find them and one big one with just water and glitter that falls slowly and is really calming to watch.
I love the big ones that you can use as a calming down activity which is a really positive and constructive alternative to time out.
Lots of great ideas here Don't forget to slow down too and try gentle activities especially those that promote eye contact Singing games, peekaboo (think younger as most of our children are very emotionally young), make holes in boxes or card plates and peek through As much touch as is acceptable to child Have fun with food and feed each other Bubbles