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cedar12 Tue 04-Mar-14 09:12:49

My ds is 3 and has been invited to a birthday party at a play area tomorrow. I knew the mum before we adopted ds so she knows he is adopted.
I have just text to remind her that we don't put photos of ds on Facebook, she said she would obviously would respect that. But it got me thinking how am I going to deal with this when goes to school and maybe I don't know the parents so well. I don't want to go around telling everyone he is adopted! has anyone got any tips?

Moomoomie Tue 04-Mar-14 09:15:34

You don't need to tell people he is adopted to ask for no photos on Facebook. People should just respect your wishes.
Once he is at school, there will be a form to sign to say if you would like to opt out of photos in the media and on school website etc.

cedar12 Tue 04-Mar-14 09:39:36

Does anyone say anything about photos to parents before the party,or just ask people to remove them if they put any up?

cedar12 Tue 04-Mar-14 09:41:06

Everyone seems to put a minute by minute account of their life on Facebook now!!

bberry Tue 04-Mar-14 10:20:42

You need to change your settings so that you have to approve any posts that tag you before they go on .... I don't think you will be able to stop him being in a group photo at some stage in the future (in the fore or background) as none of us will hmm As you say, we can't tell everyone we meet and some would forget anyway I think

cedar12 Tue 04-Mar-14 10:33:39

Thanks I will check my settings again.

TeenAndTween Wed 05-Mar-14 11:34:50

I just go for the telling people DD is adopted.
Makes life so much easier.
I don't tell them details, but it is a fact, and nothing to be ashamed of.

(Though I do know many others take your view too).

cedar12 Wed 05-Mar-14 21:03:12

Thanks teen and tween I am never sure how to play it. I have been open with some but then worry when he is older and has more understanding he might not want people to know. Its really hard to know how he might feel when he goes to school.

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