I have been on facebook for about 7 years and have lots of friends, including people I do not know very well at all, e.g. friends or colleagues of friends or colleagues, I uses it for work to kind of network in the early days in the charity sector.
I don't post pictures of my dd and don't even usually mention her by name. I don't boast about her achievements etc, I feel facebook is for me not really family.
I post stuff about human rights, petitions, and also funny photos! I use it to connect to people by messages etc and have found it helpful and not a pain so far.
Now we are adopting I am wondering if I need to change.
I think my settings are secure but I worry that the Internet is out there, for ever, and no matter how secure it is I do worry (I am a worrier!).
I am not sure whether I should:
A) Stay on as I am
B) Come off altogether
C) Come off and start again with no photos and only inviting those real friends to be friends, not those extra people (approximately a third are friends, a third are acquaintances and a third are friends or colleagues of friends or colleagues - as I say I did use it for work to network in the early days in the charity sector)
D) Stay on but change by:
Remove people I don't really know
Removing my photo from my page
Removing photos of dd (there are only about 2 or 3 there because I don't post photos of her and don't want to and won't once we adopt we won't of our new child. But a few friends have linked to dd's photo)
Remove old posts
Remove references to dd's name
Don't want to do A (feel it is not quite as secure as I would like) or B (I would miss it, it is a useful way to stay in touch with friends and most of all by the time the kids - plural- henhe - are on facebook then I want to know what it is all about) . So that leaves C or D.
Can I also ask what you did regarding facebook if it came along before you adopted.
Thanks so much.
Here are some suggested organisations that offer expert advice on adoption.
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Facebook shamashbook!
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