Hi all, I'm a newbie on this page and I'm already asking a favour!
We're expats and in the process of adopting a baby girl from China (have been in the system for 3 years but it's finally going to happen in the summer!). We have two biological DSs already who are 4.5 years and 12 months (yes it's going to be a close age gap for various reasons!).
We haven't been matched with a child yet as we have to wait a few months before our younger son is old enough but I want to start laying down the groundwork, especially with my older son - when it does happen it will all happen pretty quickly so I don't want it to come as a shock! We know we will have a girl and that she will be between 6 and 12 months old and that she will have minor special needs (but we don't know what kind yet).
When we were expecting his younger brother, he responded really well to reading books about babies as he loves books but I've struggled to find any books that were relevant to our situation so, in the jetlagged hours of last night I wrote a little something that I'm going to print and illustrate (or try to!) and read with him but I wanted to check with people who might have been through something similar that was I wasn't dropping any major clangers here - whether through specific words or ideas. It's very simple but I just wanted it to be a starting point for a conversation about what's going to happen. I'm sure he'll have lots of questions!
Please feel free to tell me any mistakes I'm making - we have had adoption training but it's not as extensive in our situation as if we were in the UK so most of our information and preparation has come from our own reading.... which is still a work in progress but I have a few months left! So I was hoping someone could read what I've written and tell me if there is anything that needs changing? Thank you so much in advance!!
"Once upon a time there was a little girl called Annie. Annie was born in China. When Annie was born she wasn't very well and her mummy couldn't look after her. She left Annie in a safe place so that she would be found and kept safe until her forever family could come for her. Annie's mummy was very sad to leave her but she knew that Annie would be looked after.
When she was found, Annie was taken to a place called an orphanage where kind people looked after all the children who were waiting for their families.
One day Annie's new family came to the orphanage to take her home. Annie had a new mummy and daddy. They told her that she has two big brothers waiting for her at home. Annie was happy to be going to her forever home. She also knew she would miss the orphanage, the other children and the people who has looked after her.
Annie and her new parents spent some time getting to know each other and arranging for Annie to get a passport just like the rest of her family had. When Annie's new passport arrived she and her parents had to travel a long way to get to Annie's new home.
When they got home Annie was so excited to meet her new brothers. It took Annie a while to get used to her new home and her family but she was so happy to finally be there and her parents and brothers felt very lucky to have Annie in their family forever."
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soapnuts · 07/01/2014 03:47
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