Friends of mine will shortly be adopting a little 6yo girl. I am so happy for them, and wanted to send them a nice card. I'd also read a bit on here from people saying it's nice to receive cards and acknowledge the new child, celebrate the adoption etc.
So - first question - is it ok to send a congratulations card? Don't want to be insensitive to the little girl's feelings in any way, and if she might prefer there to be no fuss about her moving in with hew new parents, then I would respect that.
Secondly, I have bought a card with a poem on it, I thought the words were lovely, but now I'm having second thoughts. The poem is as follows:
'If' for Little Girls
IF she enchants you from the moment that her tiny life begins
If she amuses you for hours with her giggles and her grins,
If every time she smiles at you she steals your heart away,
And whenever you're together it's your favourite time of day...
If she's the cutest, sweetest baby that you have ever seen,
If she knows just what she likes and rules your household like a queen...
If the hopes and dreams you have for her are all you're thinking of,
then she's your darling daughter - the little girl you love!
Wishing you every happiness with your new little girl.
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I really loved the words about her ruling the household like a queen, and the hopes and dreams they have for her, and how she's their daughter.
But I'm worried that the words 'the moment her tiny life begins' and 'sweetest baby' are obviously inappropriate. I can tell my friend that although I realize some of the words don't fit, I just really liked the rest of the poem and thought she would like it too.
There are also little pictures on the card - flowers, cute shoes and a dress, but there's also a baby bottle.
My friends struggled to conceive for years before applying for adoption - so I don't want to cause offence in any way with the baby references. If people think this is inappropriate, I'm happy to find a different card.
What do you think?
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Is this wording ok for a card for friends when they adopt their little girl?
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CosyTeaBags · 02/01/2014 16:20
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