Social services told me on Friday that my DS's birth father has in the last couple of years, had more children. Children are still very young. They have recently been taken into care (thank goodness).
I have mixed feelings about SS telling me this, I have to admit. Never had any contact with the birth fathers at all, they are long gone. It feels different to birth mum's children, if she had ever had any more I would have wanted to know as soon as possible. Part of me is pleased to know, the other part thinks it would be easier if I hadn't been told, especially since I'll probably never know what ultimately happens to them. Another part of me wonders why they are only telling me now.
Also, the amount of siblings that my DD2 and DS have is really depressing. Birth mum has 12. Now I know about some half siblings by one BF. Maybe there are other half siblings out there I don't know about? It hit me again today
I haven't said anything to DS, and I don't plan to until and unless he ever asks me, I'm just recording what I've been told accurately and filing it away with all the other birth family stuff I have for him.
I am sure many people on here will understand
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Lilka · 08/12/2013 18:35
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