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So proud of my DD1!!

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Lilka Wed 06-Nov-13 16:36:56

This is an unashamedly braggy post, we all need one once in a while

Also if anyone else wants to brag about their wonderful kids (birth or adoptive) on this thread, please feel free to do so - we all love a good braggy thread once in a while


1. As of today, 1 year since her last cigarette (she gave up when pg with DGD1 but then started again after the birth for a few months and then suddenly found the will to give up for good) Woo!!!

She had her very first sneaky cigarette when she was 10 by the way and had a few here and there after that, and started secretly smoking regularly when she was about 12 which made me feel like the biggest failure as a mum ever. Never managed to get her to stop, the older she got the more a day she got through. She stopped all on her own with her family cheering her every step of the way, and it's really hard if you start young so grin grin

2. She really wanted to write something about her life herself and after hearing someone at a toddler group railing against same sex marriage and adoption rights, she was absolutely determined to write something. So, she and I co-authored a blog post about her story and why 'gay adoption' is so vital for some kids. She wrote a lot of it herself and I'm so poriud of her because it takes so much guts, to even anonymously write about the thing she chose to write about. Would you read her writing? (Also, if you like it I think she's really appreciate nice comments, she was nervous about putting it up) - it's here

Any more braggers and achievements? smile

Italiangreyhound Wed 06-Nov-13 17:14:37

Amazing, please tell your daughter she is wonderful, well written piece and so clear.

A lifetime ago I might have felt every child needed two parents but long ago I realised that children need different things! Bless you Lilka you are incredible, and so is she.

Kewcumber Wed 06-Nov-13 17:26:14

I really enjoyed reading it (if thats the right way to put it!). It is an important element to same sex couple adoption or single adoption though I don't think (and I know you don't either) that this is the only circumstance in which gays and lesbians should be adopters.

It does strike me as ironic that some people are anti gay adoption because they seem to have a peculiar view that gay=paedophile (though more so with men than women I think) whereas it is often a safer bet for a child to be placed with someone who isn't going to bring a member of the sex they're scared of into the house.

I also love the fact that this upbringing has helped enable your lovely DD1 become the person that she wants to be including marriage and children. One in the eye for those oddballs who seem to think you can catch gay!

LalyRawr Wed 06-Nov-13 17:26:34

Shared it on FB (hope you don't mind).

Best argument I've ever heard and I defy anyone to tell me you're DD is wrong.

LalyRawr Wed 06-Nov-13 17:26:48

Your not you're.

Devora Wed 06-Nov-13 17:43:02

It's an amazingly powerful piece of writing, Lilka. Thank you for sharing it. You are such a gifted writer, and your daughter too - what a clear, brave, open piece that is by her.

Lilka Wed 06-Nov-13 18:09:03

Thank you so much everyone smile

I will pass all of your comments on to her (and she will see all the blog comments). She will really appreciate it, it's difficult for her to talk about and she does struggle with writing so it will be great for her to know her efforts have paid off smile

Choccyjules Wed 06-Nov-13 18:58:04

Wow. Thank you for sharing it here and please thank your daughter for putting all this into words. She has clearly explained why one size doesn't fit all.

Maiyakat Wed 06-Nov-13 20:25:14

Fantastic post - so articulate about such difficult issues. I have also shared on Facebook.

motherinferior Wed 06-Nov-13 20:28:56

I loved that grin

Tinlegs Wed 06-Nov-13 20:32:02

I have shared this on Facebook. Thank you so much.

Lilka Wed 06-Nov-13 20:50:55

Thanks again - I've spoken to her and she wants people how pleased and grateful she is for all the lovely comments, shares and agreement smile

holycowwhatnow Wed 06-Nov-13 21:03:23

Powerful post, well done to you both.

cedar12 Wed 06-Nov-13 21:04:42

Great postsmile

jonicomelately Wed 06-Nov-13 21:27:53

Fantastic post. Heartfelt and every word of it true. I recall watching a programme about a boy who was awaiting adoption. He was loyal towards his birth mother, so the sw placed him with a gay couple which he was comfortable with.

Levantine Wed 06-Nov-13 21:38:03

That is such a powerful piece of writing. Thank you.

notallytuts Fri 08-Nov-13 23:05:17

What a fab piece of writing, and a perspective that I'd never considered before (despite being very pro-adoption rights for gay people).

Devora Fri 08-Nov-13 23:22:52

Quick brag hijack: my dd2 (just turned 4) got the Big Heart award at school today for being so kind to the other children - especially the little boy with disabilities who, his mum told us, my dd has taken under her wing and is looking after him like a little mother. My heart could burst with pride [soppy emoticon].

I always tell my kids that it's great to be clever, funny, pretty etc, but that the most important thing of all is to be kind. Nice to get that affirmed smile

Lilka Fri 08-Nov-13 23:32:15

Devora That's fantastic, what a lovely little girl you have smile You are very right, being kind is the most important thing, and your daughters are clearly a credit to your mothering

Kewcumber Fri 08-Nov-13 23:36:09

How lovely Devora - DS's report last year said how kind and encouraging he was to his classmates when they were doing their show and tell. It made me cry! blush Because with his Genghis Khan feisty tendencies being kind doesn't always come naturally to him.

Being kind is so terribly important. It matters to us all, all our lives.

RhondaJean Fri 08-Nov-13 23:46:53

Lilka that's a very moving and eloquent piece by your daughter.

I would always support same sex couples adopting on equality grounds but she's given me a whole new perspective.

RhondaJean Fri 08-Nov-13 23:47:25

Not just same sex couples sorry that's not quite what I meant to say but hopefully you get me.

ObtuseAngel Sat 09-Nov-13 00:27:38

That was lovely to read Lilka, thank you.

Congratulations to your Dd2 Devora. smile

Astarael Sat 09-Nov-13 22:33:23

That was a wonderful piece Lilka. I hope you don't mindas I'm not an adoptive parent but have shared this on my facebook too.

I spend quite a bit of time reading these boards as I really learn a lot from all of you. I've always been pro gay adoption rights but this is again a new perspective. Well done Lilka's dd1!

Inthechelseahotel Sat 09-Nov-13 22:56:43

Lovely to read Lilka, she and you sound amazing

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