This is my first post so please be gentle with me! After 6.5 years of trying to have a child, hubby and I are shortly going to welcome a little boy of 2.5 years into our home - he is due to arrive some time in November.
Unfortunately, I have had rather a tumultuos year and lost my job in February - when I had hoped to work until our child came to us and I would then take adoption leave. DH is quite a bit older than me - and it was always our intention that I would take a year off and then review the work situation and probably go back to work 3 or 4 days a week (or go back 4 days a week and work one day from home). Eventually, DH would be the stay at home Dad (he is amazing with children and so kind and patient and children always love being around him).
Please don't everyone say "Why are you having a child if you are thinking about going back to work?" Of course, I don't know how I will feel but I am trying to be practical and because I will have already had 9 months off before DS comes to live with us and because my husband's job is not 100% secure any more because the company he works for is about to be sold and because I have a greater earning capacity - IF DH lost his job and I managed to find one sooner than he did, it might be that I go back to work after 9 months - rather than take a full year off (I will have already been out of the work place for 18 months)
Anyway - did anyone who has adopted go back to work? Did anyone go back sooner than a year? Of course, naturally, the child comes first - but I just wondered if anyone had any thoughts on this.
Everyone seems so amazing and I am very scared about all of this but excited too. But also trying to be practical - DH and I cannot live on nothing if he loses his job too (circumstances change...and we have been on this adoption process for 2.5 years...)
Thanks everyone.
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Hels20 · 13/10/2013 15:42
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