My dh and I had our first phone interview yesterday, the social worker said alot of positive comments about us and said that we were a very strong resource due to our ethnicities ( I am mixed Jamaican and English and dh is English) and looked favourably on me being a SAHM.
we are very much looking forward to meeting with her and she has scheduled a date for us to visit in March where we can do the official (request to be assessed I think?) as that is when our ds turns 3.
My only issue is that my PIL do not want us to adopt because they "don't see the point if you can have your own" and they also said they would not be able to bond with a non biological child. MIL even spectacularly did her wonderful crying trick followed by "why can't you just have a baby?!" I don't think they would even try to bond with our new family member should luck be on our side to be approved. My family on the other hand are majorly supportive and several of my older cousins are adopted and I know they will not let me down but I imagine the SW will want to speak with PIL. We rarely see them, but DH and I really want this and I will be devastated if PIL would be able to ruin this for us. How much weight will their attitude carry as far as SW is concerned?
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Bunraku · 12/10/2013 07:44
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