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Struggling a bit this weekend

(42 Posts)
RudolphLovesoftplay Sun 06-Oct-13 12:15:00

Hi all, I am normally uber positive about my DC, but this weekend has being trying, to say the least.

I can't put my finger on why exactly it was so bad, but it started at 6:45 on Saturday morning when my DS was so hyper he was running about screaming. They won't stop fighting, and I've had to physically deprecate them at least 3 times.

I know a lot of it is just sibling behaviour, and I know how to solve it for next weekend, so I don't really know why I'm posting. I guess I've never felt like actually running away from them before this weekend, and it's shocked me to feel like this hmm

Italiangreyhound Sun 06-Oct-13 13:07:34

Sorry to hear it is difficult at moment Softplay. Wishing it will be better soon.

Has anything happened to cause this? I wonder, or maybe just something in the air, the last of the summer!

Thinking of you.

Kewcumber Sun 06-Oct-13 13:29:34

I've had a difficult summer with days like this. Just sometimes challenging behaviour hits when we're not emotionally able to deal with it... and yet we do - we just feel like shit afterwards!

Try and do something nice for yourself and start agin.

Kewcumber Sun 06-Oct-13 13:35:34

starting a gin would of course be nice! or you could start again!

RudolphLovesoftplay Sun 06-Oct-13 14:01:54

Thanks guys for your kind words. I have enrolled my oldest at Saturday football which is an early class. I think the issue maybe the lack of weekend structure after a week at school.

My youngest is soooo heavily influenced by the behaviour of his brother that I am hoping separating them a little may help him especially.

KristinaM Sun 06-Oct-13 14:02:49

Don't be shocked that you feel like running away. It's totally normal.

Just because we went through hell to adopt them doesn't mean we don't all fantasise about a nice peaceful weekend without them

I think I fancy the Maldives -what about you?

RudolphLovesoftplay Sun 06-Oct-13 14:10:06

I think I thought I would over this by now as they've been home for 2.5yrs. In hindsight, when they first came home I suffered a bit of post adoption depression, and even then I never felt like running away!!

I agree though, I'm not feeling anything different to what all of you have been through at some point, so I'm not for sectioning just yet smile

I think it would be Seychelles for me, just for a weekend mind wink

Kewcumber Sun 06-Oct-13 14:21:45

Ha ha haaa 2.5 yrs?! Amateur! We've been home/matched 7 years next month and this summer has (intermittently) been the worst we've had.

I'd murder for a weekend in the Seychelles.

Mind you we have had the best week this week in probably 3 months so am feeling smug right now.

Kewcumber Sun 06-Oct-13 14:22:56

I'm sure having moments or wanting to run away from your children must surely be a sign of a sane person. Why wouldn't you want to run away from a whirling dervish?! confused

KristinaM Sun 06-Oct-13 14:32:40

It's taken you 2.5 years to want to run away????? You must have the patience of a saint

Most of us have had lots of " oh my goodness what have I done " and " this isn't how I imagined it " moments in the first few MONTHS!

KatieScarlett2833 Sun 06-Oct-13 14:34:08

DH and I are running away on Monday grin
We lasted 18 years gringringrin

Kewcumber Sun 06-Oct-13 14:39:39

I have a night off next Saturday. DS is having a sleep over at his Nan's haven't had one in a couple of months and it feels odd. I'm already feeling a bit limbless!

RudolphLovesoftplay Sun 06-Oct-13 14:54:00

Within about 30mins I had a "what have I done moment" and the feeling lasted about 6months sadly, with little respite in between. But I never felt like actually up and leaving them, no.

I'm sure I will be ok tomorrow when I've had a good rant at DH sleep grin

Kewcumber Sun 06-Oct-13 15:18:53

Ah but the up and leaving them bit is a little like the reverse of the childrne play up most when they feel secure that you're not going to leave them. I wouldn;t have allowed myself to think about walking away in the early days because it was probably a bit too close to the bone to allow the idea to creep in.

Now its more of an exasperated, I need a break, kind of thing. And perfectly normal (IMVHO)

RudolphLovesoftplay Sun 06-Oct-13 15:22:55

Very wise words Kew smile

Lilka Sun 06-Oct-13 18:32:30

I fancy a nice little mountain village in the Alps personally....somewhere with a spa nearby where i can get a massage

2.5 years without wanting to run is a truly amazing achievement

I seem to average weekly, but daily at the moment.

Hmm, how about a Caribbean cruise...

KristinaM Sun 06-Oct-13 22:52:56

Ooh the alps sounds very nice. In the winter to ski or the summer to walk? Perhaps we could do both :-)

Though I'm tempted by the Seychelles with Rudolph and kew

Maryz Sun 06-Oct-13 22:58:59

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Kewcumber Sun 06-Oct-13 23:02:26

Oh a cruise would be nice... a MN adoption cruise.

Maryz Sun 06-Oct-13 23:03:43

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Lilka Sun 06-Oct-13 23:15:58

Exactly, Alps is the perfect choice all year round! Seychelles sounds pretty good, but quite hot. But then, I'm not a heat person, I prefer cooller weather

I've always wanted to see Machu Pichu....

Lilka Sun 06-Oct-13 23:17:28

The idea of a cruise with DD2....don't know whether to laugh or cry grin

Lilka Sun 06-Oct-13 23:18:12

The ships crew would definitely choose 'cry'

Devora Mon 07-Oct-13 00:01:51

I fantasise, frequently, about a weekend away, completely by myself. It doesn't matter where - Croydon Novotel would do - because I'm not leaving the hotel (can't risk having to interact with anyone). I just need to be Completely Alone, somewhere with a comfortable bed (that I don't have to share) and room service.

I am salivating at the thought. It's been 8 years, I reckon I'm owed.

Kewcumber Mon 07-Oct-13 11:38:37

I remember crisp white sheets and room service. <<sigh>> I never appreciated it then.

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